BlueWillow
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Hello everyone
Those of you in long term relationships; I would be curious to hear from you and gather insight /advice on the topic of intimacy.
I need to re-light the fire between my husband and I. We are sexually active maybe once a month, but the passion and intimacy has gone. Its rather mechanical at this point.
And there is a distance between us that just feels strange- but at the same time its a closeness of him being like family. Does that even make sense?
Im thinking how strange it would be to lie in bed and stare into eachothers eyes and be as passionate as we use to be. Strange because that has not happend in *years*.
[[[Not sure if there any Pisces reading this, but I tend to operate in fantasy land sometimes. Comparing my relationship to a romance novel or movie. But is it really possible to have
firey, steamy, hopelessly devoted, romantic marriages??? after many years?!?!]]]
Im a very sexual and physical person- my love language is touch. [ I know this is because of my child sexual abuse ] .... His is acts of service. So already right there we are a little off.
I feel like im forgetting myself, and letting a piece of me die off because im not honoring what is important to me. But I dont know how to initiate and break through to get it back.
I dont think he knows either... but he has explained to me sex isnt that important to him. He is content with what we have right now.
As I want to have a family soon, im scared that if we dont fix the intimacy now, then it will only become more challenging to get back.
Trust is tied to this issue im having too.. fear of letting go completely again.
Thank you In advance for reading...
Those of you in long term relationships; I would be curious to hear from you and gather insight /advice on the topic of intimacy.
I need to re-light the fire between my husband and I. We are sexually active maybe once a month, but the passion and intimacy has gone. Its rather mechanical at this point.
And there is a distance between us that just feels strange- but at the same time its a closeness of him being like family. Does that even make sense?
Im thinking how strange it would be to lie in bed and stare into eachothers eyes and be as passionate as we use to be. Strange because that has not happend in *years*.
[[[Not sure if there any Pisces reading this, but I tend to operate in fantasy land sometimes. Comparing my relationship to a romance novel or movie. But is it really possible to have
firey, steamy, hopelessly devoted, romantic marriages??? after many years?!?!]]]
Im a very sexual and physical person- my love language is touch. [ I know this is because of my child sexual abuse ] .... His is acts of service. So already right there we are a little off.
I feel like im forgetting myself, and letting a piece of me die off because im not honoring what is important to me. But I dont know how to initiate and break through to get it back.
I dont think he knows either... but he has explained to me sex isnt that important to him. He is content with what we have right now.
As I want to have a family soon, im scared that if we dont fix the intimacy now, then it will only become more challenging to get back.
Trust is tied to this issue im having too.. fear of letting go completely again.
Thank you In advance for reading...