Sufferer intothelight (update)

[AngelKeeperJ]

Sending love, prayers, and hugs for your Mom and all who have felt her love of your family!
She taught me more than I could ever put into words or quantify. Blessings to you during this time

 

[MrMoonlight]

I'm so sorry to hear this. She and her family are in my thoughts.

 

[Freida]

Thank you for letting us know and I'm so sad for you and your family.
She is an amazing person and will be greatly missed

 

[ninja]

Thank you for letting us know. My heart is with all of you.

 

[Ecdysis]

Sending love and light

Thank you for letting us know

 

[Charminghorse]

Can’t say I wasn’t expecting it, but I also knew it was coming. I was with her Sunday, she slept most of the day but I just assumed it was because of the medication. We talked to a nurse who was saying that she was to go to the rehab facility to build up strength, then try the treatment once a week. She was in a lot of pain, from bed sores and broken bones, but she was still, well, spirited.

“I’m not ready to die, I can’t give up yet.You don’t know what I’ve been through, I’ve always been fighting and I'm not done yet.”

She fell asleep after that, woke up after a doctor she didn't like came in and woke her up for no reason. Some more visitors came, I kissed her goodbye and said I loved her. The last thing I heard her say to me was, “I love you too.”

Monday, I got a call from the middle sister, “they say there is nothing else to be done. She has hours, maybe days.”

From then on, she was in and out of it, wanting to get up and take off her oxygen. By Tuesday, she wasn’t waking up. That was when I made my first post to let you know her status. Wednesday, my stepdad, her husband, called and said it wouldn’t be long now. I sat by her bed, hoping she’d open her eyes; that she’d pull through and something else could be done. I held her hand for the first time since I was probably a child. Regret that I didn’t do it more, but we’re unfortunately not a very affectionate family. I just wanted her to squeeze it back.

My brother, her oldest daughter, her husband, and I, the youngest, were there most of the day. Her middle daughter was driving as fast and she could, but it was over a 6 hour drive. M, her middle daughter, stepped in at 4:06 and held her hand, kissed her head, and whispered to her. She was declared dead at 4:12.

I know that she loved so many of you. She’d talk about you guys and the forum with such happiness, I know she considered many of you as very close friends. I don’t think she would have made it as long as she did without you all.

 

[Rose White]

I don’t know what to say except I am so grateful for you to share this precious transition with us—what a beautiful death story that you were all there present with her and the story of holding her hand is such a gentle tribute.

We don’t always get closure here— it is a blessing and gift when it happens. She was such a warrior and so fierce in her love. So much love to your family.

 

[Ecdysis]

I'm glad it was (relatively) peaceful and very glad your sister got there in time. Often people will "wait" to go until everyone's there or until they leave the room, so I can well imagine your mother holding on until your sister was there.

Wishing you well in this difficult time and thank you again for sharing the final leg of her journey with us

 

[Teasel]

Thank you so much for letting us all know. I'm so grateful to have known her. The most kick arse of women.
Sending love

 

[ninja]

Thank you so much for letting us know. Here with you and for you as you need, as you process all of this.

 

[Tinyflame]

@Charminghorse , don't regret, many of us here have not had affectionate families or families at all.

So glad you could tell her and hear I Love you. So glad everyone made it in, and agree she held on for it. So grateful for all she gave me, herself, her words, oddly I say her 'smile'. So so so very grateful.

I cried to hear it, something I can't normally do. What an amazing woman and friend. She goes Into The Light taking so much love she gave. Met 1st by her beloved Newfs I am sure.

I am not good at words but I wish you all my love, and I am so very sorry. She and I shared a saying from a loss long ago: 'There is no sorrow on Earth Heaven cannot heal'. She gave that example with her life. I wish that for you all.

 

[Rose White]

Met 1st by her beloved Newfs I am sure.

Oh my goodness! This is why they had to go ahead of her! To jump up and down and slobber all over her! To shepherd her into the light