Relationship Is It The Ptsd, Or Him?

[HëllaBubz]

Always will be, but keep your head up.

huggles to ya. :hug:

 

[Darcy J]

Huggles are so needed today. I met with his doctor. It's didn't go well and I am not sure he really wants our marriage. I'm pretty well heart broke at the moment.

 

[amethist]

Just for you Darcy

 

[HëllaBubz]

Ah baby, I so wish I could be there for you right now, I know what it is like to cry as your heart breaks and you are slowly torn in half, I've been there a few too many times.

No matter the pain, I'm only a PM away.
Just remember that no matter how much you are hurting, it always helps to ease the pain by crawling into bed with your little one and cuddle him til the hurt sleeps, children have a way of understanding.

I remember back to a very, very young age, and I remember my mother's pain and wishing I could just give her a hug to make her stop crying, to protect her.

Here is lots of love and huggles, I wish I was there to hold you til it went away.

xoxoxox

 

[BloomInWinter]

(((((Darcy)))))

I have moments when I'm in emotional flashback - for days - and it's like I'm back in the time when I was trying to escape an abusive relationship. At those times, the world and the people in it all get painted with the 'I hate my life and everyone hates me. I need a change...RIGHT NOW' brush.

Then, I get back into myself and am ashamed at having been so out there.

I tell my kids and hubby to give me some space during those times because I feel like a trapped, hurting wild animal...and I don't wanna bite 'em.

No matter how bizarre my spoken thoughts are, I don't really mean 'em until and unless all of me, calm, and not triggered - means them, over and over.

If people took my word in flashbacks as how I really felt ALL the time, I'd be devastated. It's the trauma 'fight or flight' response, not my true 'big picture' response.

 

[Wingchee]

Darcy, I totally understand how you feel because I am experiencing the same thing, and this is not the first time either.

I love my husband very much and knowing that he talking romantically with another woman is utterly heartbreaking and devastating. Everytime I think I cannot take it anymore and I want a divorce. But in the heart I know he loves and cares for me, and he will be just as beat up as I do and stop the behavior as soon as I found out. I think he is not serious with the other women. So at least you said your husband has stopped his behavior.

It is not the end of the world. I am no expert to tell you what to do because I am just as destroyed and don't know what to do. I think only you can tell if your husband still loves and wants to stay with you. If you think or he says he does, things can work out.

It is good to hear from a guy's perspective too.

The man may just be looking for a thrill and the romance the is fading away in a marriage, which doesn't mean he wants anything serious to do with these women. It certainly doesn't justify the behavior is right, but at least you know they are not important to him.

If you say your husband was emailing multiple women, I don't think he is serious with a particular one, which may make you feel better.

Try to find out what he is seeking for from these women and maybe you can try to see if you can have it with him again.

 

[HëllaBubz]

Hi Darcy, something Vangeeau wrote reminded me of something, if you wish, go to my profile page and check out a thread I started a while ago......you'll know it when you see it.

I don't know if it will help you or not, but it may give you a bit of support knowing that there are other people out there who are going through something a bit similar, and who have your 'six', so to speak.

xx

Bubzie.