Is Just Talking Enough?

[Mandy Tad]

Hi Elizabeth-Ann, I understand what you going through. I too face the same feeling during therapy. Someone on this forum helped me understand and to ask the question to your therapist what kind of therapy you are having. Don't be afraid to ask, you are going there to get help and feel better. When I realized that my therapist was not a trauma specialist I walked away and searched for a therapist who specialized in dealing with PTSD. I had to do this for myself. You have to get better for yourself, you deserve to be happy.

I have lost my confidence, my self esteem and trust and my therapist is helping me find it again. It is very difficult and I want to just give up and curl up and not have to face another day. It is sad what happens to us,it is very difficult to stay strong and you need the help to get stronger. It does not mean you are weak or anything, you are going through a terrible time.

Let me share this with you -

“The only real failure, is the failure to try.

And the measure of success is how we cope with disappointment. As we always must.

We came here, and we tried, all of us in our different ways.

Can we be blamed for feeling that we are too old to change, too scared of disappointment to start it all again.

We get up in the morning, we do our best. Nothing else matters.”

As we know about the future it will be all different, but perhaps what we fear is that it will be the same

But we must celebrate the changes, as someone once said - everything will be alright in the end, and if it’s not alright, then it is not yet the end.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

So when everything is ok, it's the end? Really hate that quote. It's trying to be uplifting, but if you analyze what it says it's actually quite depressing!

 

[Shellbell]

I agree SOL, I think we need to live in each moment now if we can, not look to 'the end' as being the only place where we will ever be okay ,or have happiness. We need to try to find 'okays' each day.

 

[Abstract]

I very much agree. What has helped me a lot is to try to take satisfaction from any growth I find or any enjoyable moment. I don't think too far ahead as it isn't helpful to me. I find the small steps much better.

Some may say that is limiting but I get much further that way and in a much better frame of mind. Thinking of an end at all just makes me panic or feel hopeless at the best.

 

[Shellbell]

Abstract, I agree with that completely. I don't think it's limiting though, I think it's realistic and positive :tup:

 

[Mandy Tad]

SOL, This quote is not about true or not true, it's more as a consolation.

"everything will be okay in the end" means be positive and optimist from the start as you do something
"If its not okay" means there is nothing perfect, there are always ups and downs
'Its not the end' means dont give up.

 

[saffy]

But is this "enough"? I don't know if it would be better to do a specific trauma therapy how they are described in this forums to "make it go away". Does "talking" only really help or am I just digging in my dump?

I think there are lots of different types of therapy based on different approaches in psychology. As humans different things work with different people. Some people learn by and like to hear, some learn by and like to see, some like to work things out themselves, some need more guidance and telling what to do.

Finding the way that suits you personally might take a few goes in different directions. Unless you know yourself well enough to say by talking, say with person centred psychology, it will allow me to understand things for myself which then will make more sense, rather than going by how someone else has interpreted, and so come to realise themselves what they need to do. If that makes sense.

I think though that talking and listening is very important in therapy. But it will be emotionally draining. The important things is to be able to practise and believe in the daily results you get from talking in a positive way.

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[anthony]

Therapy is mostly "telling him" how my week was, what crisis I had and what horrible dreams, what triggered or stressed me. More and more also I am trying to tell him what has happened to me, what is extremely difficult.

That is trauma therapy, to a point, however; is your psychiatrist also teaching you specific things? They must be explaining things to you. Why something happens, so you can understand what goes on in order to understand how to change something.

Therapy is a two way street. You need to give information and work hard, but they need to also teach you and set you goals to achieve... which could be small or large.

Therapy, the session itself, really isn't anything beyond checking in, seeing how your week went, teaching you some more things to work on, reviewing failures and trying new methods, etcetera... then you go and do the work during sessions.