Poll Is Your Carer / Sufferer A Member Of This Forum?

[Iron_Angel]

I have been wondering whether to recommend to my Sufferer to join this forum. It has been such a help to me, and everyone so kind and supportive, I know he would benefit from it. I haven't said anything that he shouldn't read (I'm sure he'd figure out quickly the name I go by even if I don't tell him specifically).

I'm a bit torn, because this is a special place I sort of want to keep to myself. On the other hand, my desire for him to get help is greater than my need to do my own thing. I know there are other forums, I'm just biased toward this one.

Maybe I'll just make the general suggestion to him that "forums might help" and let fate dictate where he lands...

 

[Gamereign555]

She is not a member no, I did try to get her to join up but she doesn't seem all that interested. She is interested enough to occasionally look over my shoulder but that's pretty much it. She does know where to go if she is having problems but if she does it or not is kind of unknown to me.

 

[Kim]

My husband is not a member of this site but he does know I am a member. I have thought of having him join but I don't know if he would (forums aren't really his thing). I have told him about the things I have learned on here and I know that he's happy I've found a resource and outlet for the PTSD. He's always willing to listen to whatever new information I've found.

 

[Gamereign555]

I know what you mean there Kim. My amanda does not like to post in forums and threads but she loves to read them.

 

[njray]

Hmm.... I wish now I new of my X's traumas she suffered from as a child when we were together. I did find out some of them but to be honest I did not know how to deal with them or admit-tingly I was so uneducated about mental health issues when she did talk to me lightly about them I really did not know how to respond other than to say I loved her. She needed a lot more and so did I... I believe strongly had I been more educated it would have changed our relationship. No, we still would not be married but we would not be adversaries at our childrens expense.

Sadly I suffered traumas as a child and have been blessed in having a family traited disorder but because of lack of edication in the family, acceptance of the disorder with in the family and societies un acceptance when I was growing up I was not treated nor ever evaluated.

I would suggest to anyone with PTSD and in a relationship to share as much as possible with there partner. Educate them, if this site is a venue great if not please find other venues. IMHO we will never be cured of PTSD so being with a partner that does not know about it might get the wrong signals from you or become confused to the point it may be a root cause for the relationships demise. PTSD, ignorance and lack of knowledge is a combination for disaster.

 

[Srain]

My husband is not a member although he was a member of another support site I went to and still go to from time to time. I think he has a bit of "mental health" fatigue. When I mentioned learning more about PTSD he was not too thrilled especially after he had just gone through a 11 week course on the mentally ill. He has always been involved but this last year or 2 has been a lot of extreme highs and lows. I can't really blame him for taking some time out, especially since I'm finally steadily working with a Trauma Specialist.​

If he comes here he will just silently check it out, if he hasn't already, and not post. He always wants to make sure I'm okay but he will then let me know afterward.​

Rain​