It’s Hard To Read When Someone Says…

[snarfus]

As I read more and more posts on this forum, I have found certain ones where someone speaks their truth with authenticity and unguarded vulnerability, where they express what it is to be the human being they are.

And sometimes, maybe most times, they are suffering.

And from time to time, there is some kind of “excuse me” attached for being who they are, or feeling how they feel.

I can understand this.

But a part of me says “no! no! no! please don’t excuse yourself, for you just showed us how beautiful you are.”

Because I do believe that...when someone shares of their deeper self with me, they have just given me a gift.

It is sometimes hard for me to read because I often doubt myself and sometimes I wonder if I have to excuse myself for being...me. For suffering.

I know the answer, but sometimes my brain, that dirty liar, responds with “Yes!” and it hurts. And then I worry how I would begin and if I could even do it at all.

But in those times I find myself grounded (!), I think and feel for certain...no one has anything to excuse or apologize for when it comes to expressing what they think and feel in response to the experience of being alive in this world.

Especially when part of that experience is traumatic.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

no one has anything to excuse or apologize for when it comes to expressing what they think and feel in response to the experience of being alive in this world.

Sometimes one feels they need to for one reason or another. That doesnt mean you should, just because that one(s) feel the need to.

I 100% agree that one should be able to share their deepest hurts and their truest self but if they feel they cant, that doesnt mean you shouldnt.

Make any sense? :hug:

 

[snarfus]

More sense than I can say, yes.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

More sense than I can say, yes.

;) :hug:

 

[Sideways]

It is a gift, as well as a recovery tool.

People here who have shared more about themselves than I can are showing me, just by their contribution, that it is possible to speak, and be vulnerable, and still be accepted.

So I do my best to share what I can in turn, in bits and pieces, and acknowledge to myself when I do, that my head didn't explode, the world didn't collapse in on itself, & I'm still as accepted as I was before. I'm the same as I was before, but less isolated.

Love your OP:)

 

[Tinyflame]

Thanks for your kindness @snarfus . :hug:

 

[Recovery4Me]

...no one has anything to excuse or apologize for when it comes to expressing what they think and feel in response to the experience of ...

Your offer is so beautiful and so sound within mental health as well as compassionate communication. However insofar as the quote above, I stand beside you in that vein maybe only within this trauma board. Now here is my rub for outside the board...some of the honest testimonies that I have heard or read within the court room and/or case studies for certain crimes, have born thinking as well as feelings that challenge a moral core. So I can offer there are exceptions for me and perhaps by some of our laws within society when apologies + time for the crime is the minimum due.

 

[snarfus]

People here who have shared more about themselves than I can are showing me, just by their contribution, that it is possible to speak, and be vulnerable, and still be accepted.

Yes, this is my current experience here.

So I do my best to share what I can in turn, in bits and pieces, and acknowledge to myself when I do, that my head didn't explode, the world didn't collapse in on itself, & I'm still as accepted as I was before. I'm the same as I was before, but less isolated.

I did this person-to-person recently, and it was OK, and that was, well...more than I could have hoped for.

Though I did have a panic attack afterward. :eek:

Love your OP:)

Thank you. :happy:

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Personally when I did post graphic content, it was for me...i had to get it "out there" and out of me to get anywhere.

Today im way more reserved....

 

[snarfus]

Your offer is so beautiful and so sound within mental health as well as compassionate communication. However insofar as the quote above, I stand beside you in that vein maybe only within this trauma board. Now here is my rub for outside the board...some of the honest testimonies that I have heard or read within the court room and/or case studies for certain crimes, have born thinking as well as feelings that challenge a moral core. So I can offer there are exceptions for me and perhaps by some of our laws within society when apologies + time for the crime is the minimum due.

Thank you. And yes, I did speak within the context of a (hopefully) safe place, this is true.

But yeah, expand that to any cultural “institution,” and all bets are off! :unsure:

 

[Recovery4Me]

I am very glad you find this board among your safe places. Your warmth, intellect and integrity adds much.