It Is Just Me?

[Whyteferret]

Does anyone else want someone who is judgmental or just plain ignorant want that person to live just a day on your head?

Just live with the anxiety, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, confusion, reliving the trauma, fear, etc. for just ONE day.

Is it bad to wish that on someone?

I just get so tired of people not understanding or even trying.

 

[Friday]

It's only something I'd wish on an enemy. Just one day, or even better one week. So the motherf*ckers never learn to cope with it.

But then I chase that thought down and be like, nah. Because then they be like "What's your effing problem? I handled this shit."

So may they all have soft, easy lives, and never get hard enough to cause me any worry. ;)

 

[mary1979]

I used to wish my kids Dad could feel what I felt for just one minute so he could grasp how much harder to change it all than he thought.

I eventually realised that he just didn't want to understand, not that he couldn't.
Everyone CAN if they try.
Some are just too absorbed.
You dont need people like that around.

 

[Ronin]

In my head?

No sir. My head is a brilliant creative place full of hope.
Them suckas not worth that. ;)

 

[ladee]

It's a club we belong to , that no one wants to join.Many people couldn't handle it. Some would surprise me. But I have finally realized, that trying to get someone to understand something they have never experienced is futile. They can learn to take care of them selves when I am on a roll or headed toward the rabbit hole..They can learn, intellectually what I am going thru, but they will never understand. I really think for me, this is one of the reasons I isolate. Just get tired of being around ignorant people.. And some of our symptoms are like having Touretts( sp?)Syndrome, we really have no control... not right at that second...
A lot of people do not have what it takes to support us. They just don't have it, regardless of how much they learn.
Just like if someone was in a 25 car pileup.. I could empathize, but wouldn't really know the terror they felt. I only have my own terror to compare it to.
That's why we have each other, we do understand each other. We all understand each others feelings, regardless if the situation is the same or not.
Ya, we are different in this world... wonder if they ever think , wow, just wish someone could understand that I'm only deep as thimble, have no real empathy for anyone else, live in my own self centered world and do not touch my Rose Colored glasses!!!! Probably not.
Like the line in the movie... Jack Nicholson... ' YOU can't handle the truth !'... no one wants to hear about this ugliness, the fear, and the list goes on...
Guess somewhere along my healing journey, I just started giving the dumb-asses a pass. What difference does it make if they do understand... they either step up to help us, or they don't... I have too many people in my life who DO understand, those are my go to people...
Hope you stop spinning in place , just for your own sanity... and yes, some do not want to know because it is a lot of responsibility to be in relationships with us... their loss...Because we are, as a rule, the most tender and loving humans on the planet... sans our anger issues... even then, we worry about who we might hurt.
So, I understand you.... others here do, so just save yourself some grief and come here... sending you gentle hugs for living in an unconscious world.

 

[Changing4Best]

My abusive ex-boyfriend thought I was "faking it" and even threatened to tell that to Social Security Disability (which is my sole income) when I left him. I called them and warned them that he was planning to and threatening to do that, just in case. They assured me that it was no problem. All the Dr.'s reports where in my file and not to worry about it. Others have accused me of faking it too. I have gotten used to that possibility and just let it roll off of me. I cannot waste my time with people like that. I know sometimes you cannot walk away from folks, because you are married to them, they are your kids or your parents or something, but for the most part, I have no use for folks who cannot even try to understand,. I have left them behind in the dust. As to said ex-boyfriend? I moved 625 miles away from him, just to be sure he was no longer a part of my life. He was a city slicker and I moved way out into the mountains in the country. (It's so peaceful here....). No, he could never survive here and never followed me. I suppose he probably knows where I am. Maybe he even thinks I was crazy for moving here. I really don't care. The point is that he's out of my life for good, thank God!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Does anyone else want someone who is judgmental or just plain ignorant want that person to live just a day on your head?

Yep, sure do and I see nothing wrong with it at all.

 

[Bine]

Hello, Whyteferret!
I would not even have had wished to the enemy to be one day on my head, because it's a very traumatic test for everyone.
I think it's wrong to wish someone harm, if he deserves it.
I believe in karma. Man, who does evil, takes it back in a larger size. Do you agree with me?

 

[EveHarrington]

Just one day?

No-----I don't think wishing just one day of this stuff on someone is a bad thing.

Maybe people would be a bit more compassionate.

And I'm sure the experience would make many into believers as they'd probably think they'd seen the wrath of hell and run into the open arms of Jesus.

That was supposed to be a little funny. But I'm sure that many others have had those days where you think "hell cant be much worse than this----"

My apologies if I offend, not my intention.

 

[ladee]

No apologizes needed here @EveHarrington I have always said, I don't believe in the hell Christendom preaches, because I have lived it here on earth. What you said is true in my world.

 

[Whyteferret]

Hello, Whyteferret!
I would not even have had wished to the enemy to be one day on my head, because it's a...

@Bine
"Ever mind the Law of Three
What you send forth comes back to thee."

It works both ways. I just get sick of people's BS sometimes.

How would having someone understand/ experience one day of pain and fear really harm them? If they become more compassionate and understanding, isn't that a good thing?

 

[Whyteferret]

No apologizes needed here @eve Harrington, I have always said, I don't believe in the...

@ladee
@EveHarrington

I don't buy the Christian hell either. Yes,there's an accountability but having someone suffer forever is not compassion or even morally right. He harmed me for a brief time period if you think about eternity. Him suffering eternity wouldn't balance the scales, it would knock them over.