Jelously

[watchdog]

Hey,

things have been pretty good, but I have something embarrsing to admit.........I have turned into a very jelous person.......jelous as in jelousy, with my spouse.......this is new to me, its my new finace......anyone els having this problem, I would never admit to her im jelous, its hard saying it here....but im a jelous guy now:(

 

[Jimmy1]

Thats a trust thing.

I used to have a problem with all women. I think it stated from being in the military.
You used to trust the forces. They fed you, looked after you, trained you, and you knew what you were doing.
For me I then got PTSD and they dropped me like a hot potato. So who did I trust then.
Even my wife left me and all my close friends did not want to be around me. So every time I met a potential partner

I was always jealous that they were going to leave and that I was not good enough for them.
It passes though mate. My current fiancee I trust. I know she loves me for who I am, with PTSD and all. Even though I can be a complete and utter selfish arsehole sometimes, I know she will never leave.

Just an opinion.

 

[watchdog]

wow......thanks, that describes it to a t, after I found I out I had PTSD my wife left (two kids, 13 years) however, now when I think about it, I dont blame her. Im getting medically released, I have basically fell thru the cracks..... I see the connection.....makes a lot of sence. I basically think, for some reason something will happen and she will leave (or cause me to leave) and it just produces mistrust, jealously, grudges etc..... its basically our brains trying to prevent this emotion from happening (because we know its bad) and bassically counter it by being asses and keeping ourselfs distant thinking that if she does leave it will not hurt.