Landlord keeps coming into my house and my ptsd is flaring up to the point of affecting my life

[LanaD]

I was so happy after moving into a nice shared house, especially after I had so much housing trouble. (I'm a woman and was assaulted in my own home). But my happiness hasn't lasted long: my landlord keeps coming into the house and it's freaking me OUT.

I talked to him about it and he said he wouldn't come without letting me know anymore. Now he sends me messages saying he's coming but it's nearly every day. WHAT the heck he's doing here I do not know but it's making me feel horrible and what's worse is he re-arranges stuff around the house every time! WHY I do not know.

And now he's apparently chosen a new roommate for me, a person I said I DO NOT want to live with but he's still showing this person the house today! The lack of respect is beyond imagination.

Moving is expensive, and finding another affordable place won't be easy, so I'm sitting here completely freaking out. I'm back to that feeling of lone cornered animal and it ain't pretty. This is all affecting my job (one that took me a long time to find) and my life because I got drunk a few times again and now several of my new friends are avoiding me. I'm quitting the drinking of course but the damage's been done.

It's very hard to think clearly right now and I'm still looking for a therapist.

Help? I don't know what to ask even.

 

[BlueAquarius]

What is being done is illegal. You have rights as a tenant. He cant go in without your permission and he has to state why he is coming in. Does he live in the house with you?

 

[LanaD]

What is being done is illegal. You have rights as a tenant. He cant go in without your permission...

He doesn't actually live here but it feels like he does!

 

[BlueAquarius]

He doesn't actually live here but it feels like he does!

Then what he is doing is illegal. He is violating certain privacy acts and can be sued or arrested. You can seek legal action and I can see why you would feel unsafe.

 

[Deleted member 487]

This is a Fair Housing Act violation. Contact the state anti-discrimination division (that's what they call it in Utah, unsure about where you are), housing discrimination, and file a formal complaint. ASAP. Do not wait.

 

[LanaD]

Thanks all, but I don't live in the US. There are laws in my country to protect tenants and I'm looking into them.

I'm taking it easy right now and trying to manage the panic and anxiety.

 

[BlueAquarius]

I hope all goes well

 

[LanaD]

I hope all goes well

Thank you! Thanks to you and @cactus_jack I gathered enough strength to call a helpline and get some very useful info. Really, THANK YOU SO MUCH for your support!

 

[Deleted member 487]

Well, I now realize that you are in Europe. That does complicate things. Now it depends on the country. You see, here in the United States we have programs that keep landlords educated on what they can and cannot do. Such as what you are going through.
I wish there was more I could help you with, however, jurisdiction counts. If I knew what country you are in, different story. But that is your choice. I will not intrude upon your privacy by asking.

 

[LanaD]

Well, I now realize that you are in Europe. That does complicate things. Now it depends on the coun...

Finding info is the easy part. The hard part is peeling oneself out of bed :)