Letting Go

[Ecovuh]

Today I have to let go of my sufferer. She can't/won't have me in her life, so it is time to quit trying. Maybe some day she will be back. But for now "if you love them, let them go" applies. I can honestly say I am more than willing to keep the promises I made to be a friend to the end. I plan to send something (no messages or emotions) every long while to let her know I didn't give up. But right now I am a trigger and all I get is stonewalled. Time to let go, I'm not sure if it's too late for any hope for a future. Maybe space and time. And consistently making sure she knows I am still there.

I have known my sufferer for 6 years, only been personal friends for 1.5 years. And that is not very long for someone with severe attachment and abandonment issues. So right now I just need to back off and quit measuring time. If I plan on being a friend forever (and then some as a Christian), then I need to stop knowing how long it has been.

 

[Ake]

It has been 8 months since we broke up and I have remained friends and it is a good thing for my ex BF Sufferer, but it is very difficult for me. Every time I talk to him, it gives me hope, even though he has told me more than once that he can't be in a relationship with me. I am hoping against hope and it must stop. So, I too, have to let go of my Sufferer. I feel your pain.

 

[Enajok]

I'm letting go to, but not by choice. He stopped contacting me. What choice do I have? I wish somebody would tell me how to get over this unbelievable stabbing pain I'm feeling.

 

[Eji]

I'm going through the same thing as well. He left once again and I think it's for good this time. I'm struggling to find a way to let go and get over him.

 

[Najuka]

He asked how I was a week later. No word since. I think what he wants is wants is a situation like @ake. I know I'll hear something again sooner or later.

 

[Acib]

How do you have a relationship with someone who won't talk to you, friend or more?