Supporter Living With Ptsd Partner (child Abuse Survivor)

[nicolas]

I'm not moving away because of this dipsh!t. I am tired of hiding for not doing anything wrong. He thinks he's popular but we'll see how long his "fans" will stick around once the truth comes out.

 

[Eleanor]

Among the angels and others for whom morality is the deciding factor in their actions it would be reasonable to expect that all people would disapprove of him, and apologize and reconnect with you. But we live among very very fallible and broken human beings. And there will be a mixed reaction - and it is hard (at least on the other side of the computer screen) to know which way the tide will tilt at the end. I don't want you to have to move, and I don't think you should move out of fear. AND I want you to be prepared, because while "the good guys" carry a lot of the battles, they don't carry all of them. And you have a mom and baby to care for and keep safe and sane, and that might not be the best place to care for them if the tide tilts the wrong direction. (bad metaphor, sorry.)

I hope you live in a town of sensible and compassionate people, and that they "get it right" and it becomes a nurturing place for you and your family.

 

[nicolas]

It got worse (yes it is possible). Now he told their mother that what they did was merely "playing doctor" and she ASKED FOR IT and INVITED HIM. At 6 years old, why of course. Last time I checked "playing doctor" didn't involve ejaculating between your little sister's legs. I am now convinced that this guy is a total psychopath. He's litteraly twisting and turning his version of the facts at any convenience just to save his own ass. He also told his friends that his sister wants to destroy his marriage because she is crazy jealous so now even more people hate her. All because of a letter she wrote to him last year to explain the issues she had because talking to him face to face was simply impossible. He just freaked out and started cursing. But what did he do? He showed the letter to his wife who was obviously upset because of its contents and now it is my girlfriend who put stress on his marriage. Ok then...

 

[Eleanor]

Typical stuff from him. Sexual abusers almost never take responsibility, "she/he seduced me!" is always the defense - and very often then get the victim to believe it.

He is not going to behave like a reasonable or responsible person. And depending on how "plausible" he is to others (and you've said he is very plausible) a lot of them are going to side with him because they really are snowed.

So very sorry this is all happening. Stay strong.

(P.S. you may want to move this into a survivor trauma diary - or if you have specific questions/concerns that you'd like others to look at into the relevant forum in the Supporter's section - You'll get more input there - ordinarily folks don't look much at the older threads in Introductions. If you don't mind not getting many "views" then don't worry about it...)

 

[nicolas]

OK how do I move a thread?

 

[Eleanor]

I'm not sure you can actually move the posts ... I think admin has to do that - but you can just start a thread in the other forums... That's what I meant really, "Move the discussion." You could ask in the help section... (I'm not good at this stuff... sorry:()

If I were doing it, I would maybe cut and paste from a few of the old posts, and repost the content - or maybe just write it all out again - probably I'd just tell it all again, but that's just me!

 

[nicolas]

I'd like to but I'm not allowed to link this thread from another forum :rolleyes:

 

[KP the nut]

This is moving away from an introduction. Please start a thread in another forum, Supporter Diary?

 

[Eleanor]

Let me know when you move to a supporter diary so I can keep up! (I'm kind of bad about threads that I don't get alerts on...)