Looking For People Who Have The Same Traumas

[Deleted member 93]

This happens and is happening again. I know this site is big and it can take a while to read but it really is so important that you do. Looking for like sufferers is really counter productive. You will be missing out on so much help when you do that.

This is a PTSD forum. No matter how you got it the end result is the same. The symptoms are the same. We are here to battle PTSD. This is not a rape victim site, military, or however else you happened to become effected by PTSD. This is a PTSD forum. Most people know exactly what you are going through everyday because they too have PTSD and they come from many backgrounds and walks of life from all over the world. All these people who live through these symptoms everyday can offer much needed support while you learn to navigate these waters because they live with PTSD too.

A small thread related to the subject [DLMURL]http://www.ptsdforum.org/thread1001.html[/DLMURL]

 

[hollyberry]

Is it just looking for people with the same traumas...I'd like to find people who have the same symptoms or people that felt the same way when they got here...but I don't think its about that....we are here to help each other regardless if we have the same trauma, symptoms, feelings, thinking....We are here for support...for some it comes when we get here...for others one day at a time hopefully we earn that support

 

[Linda]

Veilid, I totally agree on what you said. The issue of coping with the disease in more important than the history of getting it.

 

[becvan]

Also there is this thread, which covers the topic quite indepth.

[DLMURL]http://www.ptsdforum.org/thread2307.html[/DLMURL]

bec

 

[Deleted member 93]

Thanks, I wondered where it went! Like I said, LOL, big site.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I also agree on this point. I feel that trauma is trauma, pain is pain, suffering is suffering.

I also dislike it when there is different PTSD labels. C-PTSD or PTSD, sever PTSD or whatever. I just feel that everyone suffers in their own way, and NO ONES pain, suffering, or symptoms are greater or worse than someone else's. I may handle anxiety better than you, but that doesn't mean that YOUR anxiety is any less upsetting to you, or that your pain is any greater or less than mine. We all suffer, we all feel the pain, we all have issues.

Just my 2 cents on this........

 

[anthony]

Bingo Wendy.... PTSD is PTSD, regardless the complexity of each, trauma is the cause and the solution to the overall process. Regardless of label, trauma can be healed and a person can learn how to manage their PTSD to atleast interact into life once again, even in a limited capacity is better than no capacity at all.

 

[Kathy]

Interestingly enough, I have observed that many carers tend to do the very same, for example, military wives or girlfriends tend to gravitate to others with partners in the service; spouses have made the comment to me that unless my spouse has PTSD I cannot fully understand, and so forth. Usually though, these are newcomers to the forum. I do understand that reasoning to a point, however if I personally looked for support only from people in my situation, I would be virtually alone on this forum, as other than Bec, as far as we know, Jim and I are the only parents of someone with PTSD here! Just as the sufferers must somehow separate the trauma from how they acquired it, so carers must learn to separate the relationship they have with their sufferer from the PTSD itself.

 

[lrs]

Very good Veiled. I agree wholeheartedly. Have a good weekend.

 

[Felicitas]

wow interesting. During my traumatizing period i got the following message so many times: "The suffering of the children we rescue out there is more important than yours" That message traumatized me deeply. i think more then the actuel rescue work. Wanting to find alike-sufferers i hoped I would find more understanding...but maybe not. So all you others who haven't been in my shoes I look forward to your understanding. i just got a reply from a carer. that felt really good!

 

[batgirl]

I agree Veiled, to be honest the only reason I am a member of this forum at all is because there are no distinctions between types of trauma. I had tried for a long time to find a PTSD forum previously to coming here, but all the forums were divided into rape, military and so on, and I didn't fit in anywhere, as my trauma is a bit hard to categorize. So here I feel I belong, and I like that there is an emphasis on symptoms and healing rather than how you acquired the illness.

 

[Marlene]

PTSD is PTSD

Thank you.

Most of the time I feel divided from other people enough all on my own. This forum is a place where I can be normal. My normal is ok here. No judging, no pointing, no 'what's wrong with you?'. Division here isn't necessary. IMO unity is the important thing. Unified we can help support each other better.

We all deal with the same stuff from the same cause...PTSD. The reason behind the PTSD is as unique as the people here are unique.

One of the things I've liked the best about this forum is that it's more about leaning to live and deal with PTSD. I know, in my heart, that I wouldn't be as far along as I am now without the help of people here.

Lisa