Relationship Loving A Girl Suffering From Ptsd

[amethist]

keeping everything calm and peaceful is what I would advise. Don't rush anything, help her to take baby steps and not giant leaps with any thing.

Rushing into things may set her backwards, so taking it slow and steady would be better.

I hope it works out well for you both.

 

[dayglo]

Heaven666 - sounds like things are going well and the local counselor is giving good advice. When it's "time", maybe you should basically lie there and let her "do all of the work". That way she's "in control" and hopefully there won't be any associations with being forced in any way...

 

[Heaven666]

Good point, dayglo. When we cuddle in bed I lay down and let her stay on top. We noticed that when I am on top she becomes distressed quickly, but when she's on top everything goes fine. She asked me to touch her yesterday, she was dripping wet and enjoying that. A big step forward for a lifelong PTSD sufferer!

 

[dayglo]

Lets keep it clean :) Glad to hear you are taking it slow, let her take the lead. Just be patient.

 

[Heaven666]

Oops, sorry, I wrote something vulgar, I am not a native english speaker. I just wanted to say that her body and mind are reacting very positively to sexual stimulation, a big step forward for a girl that was brought up to associate sex with pain and humiliation.