So for example, "I could see my mother's cheeks were getting flushed red, and I was cowering in expectancy of another blow, when she suddenly turned to me, and her face went back to normal.
She instead said "Well, that upset me what you did, but I think instead of lashing out at you, I'm going to say that it's not the end of the world what you did, and you don't deserve to be punished for it...so how about we make a pavlova and have fun instead?" and she smiled at me. We laughed and had a food fight with the left over cream.
Using present tense language for this exercise is important as it is literally creating new memories that your brain with start to configure into new neural pathways that you create.
Just try it and see for yourself before deciding that it's delusion or lying to yourself.
She instead said "Well, that upset me what you did, but I think instead of lashing out at you, I'm going to say that it's not the end of the world what you did, and you don't deserve to be punished for it...so how about we make a pavlova and have fun instead?" and she smiled at me. We laughed and had a food fight with the left over cream.
Using present tense language for this exercise is important as it is literally creating new memories that your brain with start to configure into new neural pathways that you create.
Just try it and see for yourself before deciding that it's delusion or lying to yourself.