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I'm really loving all this exercise lately. It feels so good to burn thousands of calories daily, be able to eat a wider variety of food as a result, thus enjoy nice food, evil food and healthy food, all together, because what goes in is literally being burnt off, and then some, to be healthier and fitter in body and mind. Well... never real sure about the mind part... that part is a bit dodgy nowadays, but the body is getting seriously fit and healthy again.
Increased my overall ride km's this week to 100 approximately, and hopefully to keep pushing that upwards towards 150km's per week, along with daily walking and other exercise activities. This is literally keeping depression curbed and in check, which I love... stupid vicious cycle that shit, but I love being able to eat food that I enjoy and not feel guilty over, because I am literally getting rid of those calories the same day. Whoooooo.... bring it on.
I want to try some indoor rock climbing soon... anyone in Melbourne into that one?
Increased my overall ride km's this week to 100 approximately, and hopefully to keep pushing that upwards towards 150km's per week, along with daily walking and other exercise activities. This is literally keeping depression curbed and in check, which I love... stupid vicious cycle that shit, but I love being able to eat food that I enjoy and not feel guilty over, because I am literally getting rid of those calories the same day. Whoooooo.... bring it on.
I want to try some indoor rock climbing soon... anyone in Melbourne into that one?
The Albatross
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A pleasure to read today Anthony, go you! :tup: So is it safe to say that the Jawbone is a good tool? If I get a windfall I'd like to have one and learn how to use it.
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One of the best things ever... because instead of thinking I've done enough exercise for a day, which was really little overall, this allows me to see for myself how lazy or active I've actually been, thus kick myself out the door and get walking. It really is an excellent tool to get you motivated. You set the goal and keep increasing it, pushing yourself, to obtain a good overall weekly average. I'm in the top 10% of UPsters, and slowly over the months I will push myself to get higher and fitter.
I think these tools can help a person who is self-motivated, though maybe lacking due to depression or such. Someone who wants to exercise and won't make excuses for themselves as to why they didn't achieve their daily goal. If your goal is too high, then that in itself is a bad choice on your behalf.
You can get 10000 steps pretty easily though with one and a half hours of continuous walking daily. If you walk that much in your day, you should reach your goal with no further action needed. If not, then it pushes you to get out...
I just like beating my goal, then increasing it. At the moment my average daily steps is around 17,000, and I want to get that up to 20,000 average.
I think these tools can help a person who is self-motivated, though maybe lacking due to depression or such. Someone who wants to exercise and won't make excuses for themselves as to why they didn't achieve their daily goal. If your goal is too high, then that in itself is a bad choice on your behalf.
You can get 10000 steps pretty easily though with one and a half hours of continuous walking daily. If you walk that much in your day, you should reach your goal with no further action needed. If not, then it pushes you to get out...
I just like beating my goal, then increasing it. At the moment my average daily steps is around 17,000, and I want to get that up to 20,000 average.
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The truth about Facebook... I love it: [DLMURL]https://www.myptsd.com/c/albums/the-truth-about-facebook.373/[/DLMURL]
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Same shit... different day. Slowly I am inching closer to closing this place down, wiping my hands with it all and walking away without a care in the world for what others do with PTSD. Yes, yes... I am aware and know there are a lot of people who enjoy the support a place like this provides, and connects people with one another. It is simply getting harder and harder for me personally, to put up with the shit that gets sent my direction, let alone staffs direction. Since opening this place, I near instantly gained so much respect for therapists, and understanding when they don't respond to every phone call or email from clients wanting them outside of hours, or without payment and such. The industry sucks, to be perfectly honest.
Think about it... mental health is its own downfall. It's an industry primarily comprised of takers, not givers. People suck all that is good out of others in an attempt to help themselves, then walk away through no fault of their own because they can't give back because it would affect them negatively, thus negate the work they did. I feel this constantly... the need to get out of it all because being around it sucks the hard work out of me that I've done to get as sane as possible to cope with daily life... let alone give back much more. I truly get it...
It really is far easier to go play with kids with cancer, or puppies and help them... because neither option sucks the life from you inadvertently, and instead you often walk away relaxed, happy and calm, albeit maybe sad, but you still feel good. I get it...
I actually understand why other forums closed up as this one got popular... because its pretty much an impossible arena to be within. I am just so tired of people failing to accept their own problems, their own ignorance, and laying it at mine or staffs feet. It's our problem they don't read rules, legal, help documents... shit, just watch a video for 10 minutes to get the gist of things. Na da! No can do! It's just too hard and takes too much time, apparently!
Some days I just kick myself for not taking offers made to me to purchase this place... as they were my way out of this.
Think about it... mental health is its own downfall. It's an industry primarily comprised of takers, not givers. People suck all that is good out of others in an attempt to help themselves, then walk away through no fault of their own because they can't give back because it would affect them negatively, thus negate the work they did. I feel this constantly... the need to get out of it all because being around it sucks the hard work out of me that I've done to get as sane as possible to cope with daily life... let alone give back much more. I truly get it...
It really is far easier to go play with kids with cancer, or puppies and help them... because neither option sucks the life from you inadvertently, and instead you often walk away relaxed, happy and calm, albeit maybe sad, but you still feel good. I get it...
I actually understand why other forums closed up as this one got popular... because its pretty much an impossible arena to be within. I am just so tired of people failing to accept their own problems, their own ignorance, and laying it at mine or staffs feet. It's our problem they don't read rules, legal, help documents... shit, just watch a video for 10 minutes to get the gist of things. Na da! No can do! It's just too hard and takes too much time, apparently!
Some days I just kick myself for not taking offers made to me to purchase this place... as they were my way out of this.
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I think this place is amazing, and yes, I'm emotional and all over the place at the moment.
I don't think you have been helped enough from staff recently. Or certainly, I don't feel I have helped enough, because of my own personal difficulties. And I am aware of other staff members who have been in equally difficult circumstances, meaning they have not been around to assist. Also, other staff have been on holiday.
I think this place works, and I think it works really well. You have developed an amazing place, and it has taken you years to tweak and perfect that. It would be really sad to see it sold off, which would inevitably lead to big changes, which would likely make this forum massively less valuable to the members.
My suggestion to you, would be to take on more 'staff', to allow yourself to step back a little. Give more than just you and Nicolette Admin status, again to allow you both to step back a little.
Like I said, I know I'm not in the best place right now, but including me, you have do have enough staff here, who have been here long enough, to give more responsibility to, whilst also taking on new staff, to deal with the more minor stuff.
Just don't do anything hasty, and look at other options before bailing out. Please ;)
I also disagree somewhat that members don't give back. I think they give back massive amounts of time and effort to help each other. But they also give back in the right way, which is down to your ethos. Your ethos of challenging thoughts, and not just offering sympathy. It works, and that is because of you.
Yes, there is sometimes shit to deal with, and 'problem members', but realistically, it's not to hard to just ban them, and move on. Just stick with your 'no nonsense' rule, and it works. The forum works. So a few people get pissed off, but the majority feel safe, and gain huge amounts from this forum.
Just my thoughts, which completely come from my heart at this time.
I don't think you have been helped enough from staff recently. Or certainly, I don't feel I have helped enough, because of my own personal difficulties. And I am aware of other staff members who have been in equally difficult circumstances, meaning they have not been around to assist. Also, other staff have been on holiday.
I think this place works, and I think it works really well. You have developed an amazing place, and it has taken you years to tweak and perfect that. It would be really sad to see it sold off, which would inevitably lead to big changes, which would likely make this forum massively less valuable to the members.
My suggestion to you, would be to take on more 'staff', to allow yourself to step back a little. Give more than just you and Nicolette Admin status, again to allow you both to step back a little.
Like I said, I know I'm not in the best place right now, but including me, you have do have enough staff here, who have been here long enough, to give more responsibility to, whilst also taking on new staff, to deal with the more minor stuff.
Just don't do anything hasty, and look at other options before bailing out. Please ;)
I also disagree somewhat that members don't give back. I think they give back massive amounts of time and effort to help each other. But they also give back in the right way, which is down to your ethos. Your ethos of challenging thoughts, and not just offering sympathy. It works, and that is because of you.
Yes, there is sometimes shit to deal with, and 'problem members', but realistically, it's not to hard to just ban them, and move on. Just stick with your 'no nonsense' rule, and it works. The forum works. So a few people get pissed off, but the majority feel safe, and gain huge amounts from this forum.
Just my thoughts, which completely come from my heart at this time.
The Albatross
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Anthony, is there any way to take CB's suggestion and put a strategy together to give yourself a solid forum break so that you can get some distance and decide what is best for YOU?
Personally I have greatly benefited from this site and value the time and effort you both have put into it. But in the end, the existence of this place has to have some pay off for you or you burn out. Not that caregiving is a very good comparison but it's the only one I've got... sometimes a respite break helps me to remember why I do what I do.
Personally I have greatly benefited from this site and value the time and effort you both have put into it. But in the end, the existence of this place has to have some pay off for you or you burn out. Not that caregiving is a very good comparison but it's the only one I've got... sometimes a respite break helps me to remember why I do what I do.
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I'm with cherryblossom - this site and the work you put into setting it up and managing it is very much appreciated by me, and I hope the majority of other members - there will always be dickheads, but there will always be dickheads in all areas of life.
I think cherry's suggestion of more staff is maybe worth looking at. Support is important, as the site grows, I think it would make sense that you would benefit from more support to manage it.
No nonsense works for me too.
I think cherry's suggestion of more staff is maybe worth looking at. Support is important, as the site grows, I think it would make sense that you would benefit from more support to manage it.
No nonsense works for me too.
@anthony -- giving back to our communities, whatever they may be, is incredibly helpful to humans in many ways -- at least humans who aren't deeply troubled in certain ways. A lot of us feel that way here, I'll bet. This is actually written about and studied.
We don't walk away from giving back because it would undo all the healing; we give back more and more, the more healed we get, and that is healing too.
However we have vulnerabilities as folks with ptsd -- and folks without ptsd aren't infinitely capable either! It won't help anyone for the helpers not to get help too.
These issues here include some incredibly difficult ones for anyone. I thought I wanted to become a therapist about 15 years ago; instead, I give back as an environmental volunteer pretty reliably, and sporadically try to help on these sorts of issues... personal vulnerabilities, I think, steered me away from mental health as a full-time career.
I think the staff here are doing amazing work, yourself included; I hope you're trying your best to take care of yourself too though -- whatever you decide with the forum. (I really hope it continues, but also think each staff person deserves loads of support.)
http://www.beliefnet.com/Wellness/2009/04/10-Ways-Giving-Back-Helps-You.aspx
We don't walk away from giving back because it would undo all the healing; we give back more and more, the more healed we get, and that is healing too.
However we have vulnerabilities as folks with ptsd -- and folks without ptsd aren't infinitely capable either! It won't help anyone for the helpers not to get help too.
These issues here include some incredibly difficult ones for anyone. I thought I wanted to become a therapist about 15 years ago; instead, I give back as an environmental volunteer pretty reliably, and sporadically try to help on these sorts of issues... personal vulnerabilities, I think, steered me away from mental health as a full-time career.
I think the staff here are doing amazing work, yourself included; I hope you're trying your best to take care of yourself too though -- whatever you decide with the forum. (I really hope it continues, but also think each staff person deserves loads of support.)
http://www.beliefnet.com/Wellness/2009/04/10-Ways-Giving-Back-Helps-You.aspx
Dear Anthony, I do hope you are in a better place today? It is difficult to help people who are not willing to help themselves. What you have done is incredible in regards to this website. Speaking for myself, it was a life saver when I desperately needed help and has always been here when I needed to come back. You made me stop and look at myself, faults and all. To stop the blame game and take responsibility for my own actions. Something that is hard for most people to do at the best of times.
The resources that you have made available for members and no members are phenomenal. The staff including Nicolette are wonderful, compassionate people who give their time freely in an effort to help. It is something that I would like to do, but I feel that I lack the self confidence.
I understand how frustrating it must be for you to have to put up with the abuse, from the very people you are trying to help. This is a repetitive problem as more new members join. To constantly repeat the same "comments" again and again and as you said, "take the time to watch the 10 minute video". PTSD is a horrible mental illness to have. It affects people in different ways. Some people lash out at others as a way of dealing with it, Others become stuck and can't move on. Whilst some really do try and seek help and understanding of what they are dealing with. I personallysuffer from bouts of depressions and isolation, however I manage to work and function in a relatively normal capacity. As you know it takes constant work.
As suggested, perhaps a break would be good for a while. The bottom line is that you need to do what is best for you, no matter how we may feel about it. The old saying holds true, "You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all the people all the time".
The resources that you have made available for members and no members are phenomenal. The staff including Nicolette are wonderful, compassionate people who give their time freely in an effort to help. It is something that I would like to do, but I feel that I lack the self confidence.
I understand how frustrating it must be for you to have to put up with the abuse, from the very people you are trying to help. This is a repetitive problem as more new members join. To constantly repeat the same "comments" again and again and as you said, "take the time to watch the 10 minute video". PTSD is a horrible mental illness to have. It affects people in different ways. Some people lash out at others as a way of dealing with it, Others become stuck and can't move on. Whilst some really do try and seek help and understanding of what they are dealing with. I personallysuffer from bouts of depressions and isolation, however I manage to work and function in a relatively normal capacity. As you know it takes constant work.
As suggested, perhaps a break would be good for a while. The bottom line is that you need to do what is best for you, no matter how we may feel about it. The old saying holds true, "You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all the people all the time".
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