Sufferer Marriage Triggers

[RavenGirl]

@starbar, Sometimes we just have to do what helps make us feel happy. As long as its not hurting others or hurting us I say go for it. Just don't lose yourself in the process. Also don't be so hard on yourself, you deserve a little leeway. There's enough other people out there to judge , you don't need to be judging yourself harshly.

Tell yourself some daily positive self affirmations instead.
You are worth love. You are a great person, you deserve to be happy, you are beautiful, you are a masterpiece! Things like that said daily will slowly start to change how you look at yourself. ♡ After all, you are worth it!! :tup:;):) Raven

 

[starbar]

Raven, my heart leapt a little hearing that. Like for the first time, i think i felt like i have permission to be kind to me and think kindly about myself. I dont know why, but i guess i never felt i had a right to. Maybe you are right, maybe a few kind thoughts and words a day...even if i have to force them, will help. I think I will try that. It won't be easy, because the self criticism is pretty ingrained. But it's a start. Thanks you!!!♡♡♡♡♡♡

@starbar, Sometimes we just have to do what helps make us feel happy. As long as i...

 

[RavenGirl]

i have permission to be kind to me and think kindly about myself.

@starbar, you are more than welcome. I was the queen of self criticism before therapy. I've learned offer the last 10 months that I'm not what my abusers told me and made me feel. I am so SO much more... :tup: So are you.

I've learned that I'm an awesome person, like people keep telling me. Lol:hilarious:
It's taken me a long time to learn how to take a complement, and to actually believe it. :shy:
Self affirmations feel fake and awkward at first, but over time your mind changes and you become a believer. Pick ones that resonate in you and help you move towards healing. I hope they help you like they have helped me because you are SO WORTH IT !! :tup::inlove::happy: ♡ Raven

 

[intothelight]

Welcome! :)

 

[Deleted member 33287]

I too used to do this. Go go go until I was so exhausted I couldn't go any more and then crash physica...

Wow glad to hear that provides hope for me and my friend

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug: