I_Am_Titanium
Bronze Member
I admit I'm nervous and a bit scared to post this. I have PTSD from verbally and emotionally abusive relationships. I'm in trauma therapy and discovered they were all overt narcissists.
I've also recently realized I'm married to a covert narcissist. He's much more subtle than the others were but more damaging in a way. He's very controlling and manipulative but he doesn't realize it. He wants to know where I'm at all the time and who I'm with. He tracks what time I use the ATM and berates me for it! He watches everything I do including when I go to the bathroom and how long I'm in there! He tracks my cell phone use and is always asking me who I'm talking to.
He runs hot and cold. One minute I'm his world and the next minute he wants me to leave because he says he's the only one who wants the marriage to work. He tries to get people to talk sense into me even my therapist!
He cyber stalks me and justifies it because he says he doesn't trust me. He says he wants me to be honest with him but when I am he blows up and I get triggered. It's like he can't handle the truth and is using it as an excuse to blow up at me. He even tries to get me to blow up and then tells me I'm unstable when I beg him to stop. He doesn't stop! It makes me hate him!
I know you have to "starve" a narcissist but it's really hard. He says I'm not communicating but how can I when he uses what ever I tell him against me? I've discovered he's now actually posting to this forum as a supporter to get sympathy. He says what he's going through is worse than what I'm going through. What makes him think that? How could he possibly know what I'm going through? It's the narcissim, isn't it? He's even posting everything I went through in my life without asking me if that's ok. It's humiliating to read what he's posting about me! But I can't let him have power over me! I have to take my power back and not let him have it!
He's doing a smear campaign with anyone that will listen and making me out to be the bad guy in the marriage. It's hurts! But I can't give him more ammo to destroy me. I'm not sure what to do anymore except find a way to leave. I can't stand being around him anymore.
I've also recently realized I'm married to a covert narcissist. He's much more subtle than the others were but more damaging in a way. He's very controlling and manipulative but he doesn't realize it. He wants to know where I'm at all the time and who I'm with. He tracks what time I use the ATM and berates me for it! He watches everything I do including when I go to the bathroom and how long I'm in there! He tracks my cell phone use and is always asking me who I'm talking to.
He runs hot and cold. One minute I'm his world and the next minute he wants me to leave because he says he's the only one who wants the marriage to work. He tries to get people to talk sense into me even my therapist!
He cyber stalks me and justifies it because he says he doesn't trust me. He says he wants me to be honest with him but when I am he blows up and I get triggered. It's like he can't handle the truth and is using it as an excuse to blow up at me. He even tries to get me to blow up and then tells me I'm unstable when I beg him to stop. He doesn't stop! It makes me hate him!
I know you have to "starve" a narcissist but it's really hard. He says I'm not communicating but how can I when he uses what ever I tell him against me? I've discovered he's now actually posting to this forum as a supporter to get sympathy. He says what he's going through is worse than what I'm going through. What makes him think that? How could he possibly know what I'm going through? It's the narcissim, isn't it? He's even posting everything I went through in my life without asking me if that's ok. It's humiliating to read what he's posting about me! But I can't let him have power over me! I have to take my power back and not let him have it!
He's doing a smear campaign with anyone that will listen and making me out to be the bad guy in the marriage. It's hurts! But I can't give him more ammo to destroy me. I'm not sure what to do anymore except find a way to leave. I can't stand being around him anymore.
