Memories during sex

[EveHarrington]

Your DH may surprise you!

He may have no clue how negatively this is affecting you.

He may be upset that this method of sex is hurting you.

I think communication is key, as until then, you're largely guessing what is going on with him, or even how he will react.


:hug:

 

[NewBeginnings]

You don't know that. You think he will but that is a distorted thought - mind reading....

You shared lots of good information- (and the thought of it all brings up plenty of anxiety... but I did ask and seems like it would be an important topic to introduce.)

I think my T knows there is much more going on for me than I have even been aware of. She has been gentle yet firm and says that this is on my time schedule and as I am ready I will share. I haven't really understood because my sessions can be quite intense.

Thank you...

 

[NewBeginnings]

He may have no clue how negatively this is affecting you.

Probably right on... I didn't think it really mattered if he knew because it is my issue to work out.

He may be upset that this method of sex is hurting you

Never occurred to me.

I think communication is key, as until then, you're largely guessing what is going on with him, or even how he will react.

Sounds very true. Ah ha moment... I have coped by anticipating the reactions of others and navigated situations to be extremely diplomatic (told I am really good at this - in professional life) I think I know how a situation will play out and I am not always right but I try to leave little to chance - less risky. This is an interesting process.

Thank you ...

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I think I know how a situation will play out and I am not always right but I try to leave little to chance - less risky.

I do the same. Many do. I recently learned that my mind's automatic way of making a plan for every single tiny possible outcome was hypervenglence. Which isn't always good. As a wise woman recently told me, the antalope must look for lions but also must eat and sleep as well! ;)

Also, making everthing out to be bad (a bad reaction or a bad meeting at work, etc) leaves no room for disappointment.

 

[highwaybeauty]

Not sure where this post belongs but this seems like a possible fit..I am looking for any sugg...

That sounds like a really scary experience and it seems as though you are being impacted by the fact that he comes to have sex with you when you may not be fully awake or consenting. I have experienced something similar when my husband has gone to have sex with me, I have resisted, he has persisted and then I've broken down or I have dissociated during sex. Is your partner aware of how you are feeling about this? I think it is important they are aware of how it is impacting you. It sounds as though you are really aware of it so well done. But a tough situation. I hope your partner is understanding and supportive.

HB x