Most Recommended Books For Ptsd?

[sharky]

Yes, that definitely makes sense. It will just be nice to be able to bounce between books if I feel like it's necessary to switch from one topic to another. Pretty much all of the topics of those books hold equal but very different importance to me. When I read books like that, I go back and forth between looking through the book for specifics, and actually reading the book thoroughly. I guess it would depend on if something in particular is bothering me and I need help figuring it out, or if I'm in a decent state of mind and can sit down for a while and just read.

But anyways, it looks like the book that will be accompanying the Relationships book when I place my order, will be the Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook. That's something else that both my boyfriend and I could benefit from, I think.

 

[anthony]

The general CBT book, containing the principles and foundation of CBT... that is an all-rounder to understand the principles.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Sharky,
The advice received didn't work because your boyfriend misinterpreted how to implement it! I didn't read that post, but I seriously doubt that anybody said you should be yelled at! Setting boundaries isn't about being dominant. Its about being assertive and standing up for yourself.

i know that there are couples here on the forum. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. It all depends on what is said, and if it turns into a he-said, she-said sort of situation. I've seen couples on other forums, and members don't know how to react so both parties ended up getting ignored as we didn't want to be drawn into a couples battle.

 

[sharky]

Oh no, that definitely was not what they said. Apparently they only went as far as to say "you need to set boundaries." And since he has really hardly any prior knowledge besides very very basic knowledge... He used the advice completely wrong. Like I said, it wasn't advice I disagree with because I know what they were trying to say. But because he isn't very well informed (which I'm guessing people assumed he was) he didn't apply the advice correctly. They used words like "assertive" and I think that 'assertive' is a word that is really misinterpreted (as in, be an asshole instead of being nice). And I think he misinterpreted it.

Also, I have no idea what his screen name was, I didn't even know he had an account until after we got into a huge fight and started to talk about it afterwards. He deleted his account, because he now at least realizes that he cannot correctly utilize advice given on this site right now, because as far as being informed goes... He's quite a few steps behind me and he will openly admit that. So that's why I'm really glad Anthony gave a list of so many good books. He can read them all as well (the Relaxation book he also needs for himself anyways, besides the PTSD Relationships book) and learn and understand. Because as of now, there's a lot that he just doesn't get. One thing being the amount of time it's going to take for me to change. He's a little impatient, but hopefully some reading will help. And eventually a therapist, if we can find the right one.