Most Valuable Lessons

[Loner]

Even though its not very long yet, this is probably my favorite thread on here already.

Another good lesson my shrink told me, is to imagine how you would live if you weren't depressed or dealing with anxiety, and just start living that way. It will feel contrived forced and uncomfortable at first, but it will get better, and is better than sitting at home alone.

 

[Zef]

You will regret if you focus on mistakes you have done.

You will show gratitude when you look at their positive sharing, true love.

Does this make sense? Honestly, I had hard time learning this. it took 3 years to understand this.

I still do not understand this. The good things I have done for people are things I should be doing anyway, the mistakes are, well, mistakes. My supporters tell me that is not the way to look at things, but I really don't know how to look at it any other way yet.

 

[Tanishq]

I still do not understand this.

Oh sorry. Gratitude is biggest attitude. So when you thank someone with big heart, you let all worries go. You don't hold any grudges or mistakes. You don't thin that you were fallen short with them.

Regretting will you make you feel opposite of this all. It will make you think something wrong you did, you were not enough and did not make enough efforts.

In fact, whatever you do is enough. It is your best effort.

Does this make sense? Sometimes I do struggle with gratification.

 

[Whitneys story]

Another good lesson my shrink told me, is to imagine how you would live if you weren't depressed or dealing with anxiety, and just start living that way.

Loner, Another great one! It reminds me of something I do and recommend for anyone who can. I get some unusual responses on this one. Volunteer to do something you are sure you would be comfortable
with. It is amazing how good it feels and so appreciated. Since you choose who you contact it gives you the control of how much time etc! Just a thought. It is a pleasure meeting you! Whitney

 

[Whitneys story]

One choice at a time."

Albatross,
What an excellent way to grow. So much better than "One Day at a Time".

 

[The Albatross]

Negative life lessons (what not to do) are every bit as valuable as positive ones. They just sting more. :O_o:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Realizing that I was a good little kid, turned on my heart light, and I do not go negative on me anymore. If I catch myself doing that, I just say easy does it. And it makes the negative go away. This was a huge life lesson for me.

 

[The Albatross]

Doing some reading, I stumbled on this one... and it was a heck of a painful life lesson:

Depression and trauma are disconnective disorders. They do not improve in isolation. To fix them you have to be connected to others.

 

[Whitneys story]

One of those lessons I hold dear is the fact that everyone is "I" in their own lives and the consequences that this brings.

Good one! If we do not love and care for ourselves who would we expect to become. Some people also feel this is selfish, I personally think it is healthy. Hugs Whitney

 

[Red Feather]

A lesson I am learning is to have great respect for my own small little voice.

 

[JustBe]

I still do not understand this. The good things I have done for people are things I should be doing anyway, the mistakes are, well, mistakes.

I feel the same way...need to work on this.

 

[CraftyCath]

I have had a few life lessons in the past year.

I have learned that I am not at fault for the traumas that happened to me, I am learning to live without guilt.

I have learned that no matter how hard I might try, I can only be 'me' and that is the best I can be.

I have learned that if I tell the truth of how I am feeling to someone and it makes them uncomfortable, not want to be my friend, walk away from me - I do not need to feel the rejection I once felt; I can let them go because I know that if they cannot accept me as I am then they are not worthy of me.

I have learned that some people should not be in my life, that they have been controlling or dominating me and I have let them because I thought I needed to maintain the friendships at all cost. I have learned to let them go.

I have learned to like and even love myself, to be true to myself and to be good to myself.