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[Deleted member 12723]

@Cj77 I can relate to this and I had this trouble with my dad whom I disconnected from as my mom was killed in small plane crash when I was nineteen years old. I did not want my dad to have any information about me and my family and it was really hard with my sibs having contact with him.

I only have a phone relationship with my sister and my dad died a few years back and so I do not have to worry about looking over my shoulder with my dad. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this, I really understand how difficult and hard on you it is. Hugs.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

@Cj77 I can relate to this and I had this trouble with my dad whom I disconnected from...

Oh Gizmo, that's awful, I'm so sorry that happened. I really appreciate your messages, I am glad you can finally have some relief, lots of hugs.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Dear ****,

Two things:

1. I looked up and read a lot about trauma bonding. Helped clarify things for me.

2. You weren't cleaning me, you were sexually abusing me.

 

[barefoot]

I've only just seen this thread, so am coming to it rather late...

@Cj77 - I'm so sorry that you had such a wicked, abusive mother and that your home wasn't a safe and loving place when you were growing up. I am deeply moved by your experiences and also by your courage and determination displayed in this thread. I hope that sharing these memories and feelings here help you.

My heart aches for you - and for others here whose family members have betrayed them and hurt them in the worst ways possible.
Hugs to you.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I've only just seen this thread, so am coming to it rather late...

@Cj77 - I'm so...

Thanks Barefoot, I had to take a short break from this thread, I really appreciate your message and the hugs.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Dear ****

This is so difficult for me. Just when I think I know everything, or have remembered everything, something else comes to mind.

Today it's the thing about why I hated having to wear skirts, dresses, nightgowns. Again, it's been your fault. I just feel sick and scared and angry. It literally makes my heart ache to remember. I wish they could lock you up. Or just, that you would disappear, that you never existed to begin with.

 

[oasis2003]

OMG this triggers me so much because my mother is so much like yours is. Mine lives next door to me !! I wish my mother had treatment for mental illness it would have made it better for me. I hated dresses because I had to be a perfect little girl. No one can be perfect we are human . I cannot say any more now ......

 

[Deleted member 29920]

OMG this triggers me so much because my mother is so much like yours is. Mine lives next door to me !! I...

Totally understand, Oasis. I have to take another break from the thread too. I still can't wear such clothing to this day.

 

[oasis2003]

Many hugs and understanding why do we have to get the mother from hell?!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

@Cj77 I hate wearing dresses as well. I especially hated it when my mother used to brush my hair. She would hit me on the head with the brush if I moved.

@Oasis I am sorry that you had a mother from hell as well.

On the way towards healing for all of us. Hugs to you both.

 

[oasis2003]

My m @gizmo when doing hair for school used to give me her scowling disapproving look through the mirror and then doing bunches sorry pigtails pull it really tight so it hurt lots. If I protested she used to say don't be so silly one of her many put down phrases.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am sorry that happened to you. My mom also would pull my hair tight as well. Lovely, I am being sarcastic.