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Relationship My Boyfriend Ignoring Me...

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Hello everyone, I'm very new to this site I found it through looking up some stuff (hence my title) on what to do with my boyfriend or how to help. My boyfriend was a marine and went to Iraq a couple years ago and he since then has been out and also has a Purple Heart, he lost 2 of his best friends and I know it affects him greatly. We've only been together for about 3 and 1/2 months but there's such a strong connection between us and I can't help but want to spend the rest of my life with him. Now he has done this once before with me and apologized for it and we talked and everything was okay. BUT this time he hasn't talked to me all week on this past Sunday he said that he just doesn't know what to do or say and to let him think. My family members have been telling me to be so very patient and let him know I am there I have been doing that. I don't want to give up on him, he's such an amazing man and I just don't know what I can do right now. I'm in need of a lot of help or advice if any of you could help me. I would appreciate it so much. He also told me the last time this happened he was "very sad" so could it be the ptsd that's basically making him isolate himself and not talk to anyone at all? He also hasn't been on facebook much, he goes to work everyday and I just don't know if he doesn't know what to do or anything I'm so lost and I don't want to lose him. He's had a rough childhood, and then joined the marines and I'm not saying all guys are like this but he is a guy and I'm not sure he knows how to deal with his emotions or explain them to me. Like I said I refuse to give up on him. I want to help him in anyway I can please if anyone can help me.
 
The PTSD is very capable of him isolating. That is such a strong symptom for me anyhow. All I can say is how awesome it is that you are trying to support him and being patient with him. He truly will have to learn to deal with this or he will have an extremely hard road. I truly do hope he seeks professional mental health aid and if he has support that will help him cope immensely.
 
Take the relationship slow. Very slow. Pace closeness and commitment in the relationship. Avoid being his rescuer or fixer. Expand your own support network and keep working on having good friendships with others. This will help you to be able to ride out the times he needs space.
 
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