My Boyfriend Needs Help!

[Vickym]

Hi I'm posting here to see if any suffers can tell me what to say of how to go about it.

My bf ptsd is out of control right now. He hasn't been to counceling in so long and desperately needs to go. He doesn't even realize how bad things are for him right now.

I know he has to be the one to realize he needs the help and get it. But is there something I can say or maybe a way to say it to help him see it?

I'm trying anything at this point. Even if he moves out I still want him to get help.

Every little thing makes him mad at this point. Even things he does himself.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Vickym,

If you have suggested that he go back into therapy, and he hasn't or won't, then there really isn't much that you can do.

I know that this is upsetting to you, as I can hear it in your threads and posts, but honestly, unless he wants to get the help, there is little that you can do.

 

[SunnyBrookFarm]

Vickym -
Unfortunately I have to agree with SheCat. I think it's wonderful that you want to help him (regardless of your relationship status) - but HE has to be the one to decide that he needs help. If you have made the suggestion that he might want to go see a therapist again - then there is really nothing else you can do. Hopefully he will seek out help - but if not - remember you have to take care of YOU also. I'm so sorry things are difficult for you right now. :Hug_emoticon:

 

[Vickym]

Shecat and Sunnybrookfarms,

Thank you both for your replies! You are correct where ever he is in his head right now isn't a place were he is listening to me. He does have to see it and do it for himself. I was just thinking maybe there was a way to say it or word it without causing him stress.

The problem for him is the friend he is hanging around doesn't see how bad things are for him doesn't understand ptsd. While this is make being around his friend easier in the end it is causing him harm.

As a carer I can only support not make things happen. He has to do that.

 

[2quilt]

Some people have to hit the bottom of the barrel before they stop digging. Only he will make the decision to ask for help and he knows when he is tired of being in mental pain and try to get help.
You cant do it for him.