Other My Boyfriend Seems To Be Paranoid Because He Thinks I Love His Brother

[Aida-Kanan]

Hi everyone,

My boyfriend loves me so much but he suddenly decided to break up with me because he said there has been something between you and my brother because I laughed at his jokes in the class.

I also used to be close with his brother before and there has been nothing between us. I tried to explain by texting him cause he didn't let me see him anyways he didn't listen and made me admit what I haven't done, I thought he might come and talk to me.

He barley trusts others.
He also loves his loneliness doesn't like to be in groups. And he's too jealous...Once he punched a gay guy because he asked me to take a pic from him!

Eventhough he is suffering from a great pain for leaving me he's not going to come back to me.

I really need help...

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Firstly welcome to the forum @Aida-Kanan . I send a :hug: from the UK if you accept them, PTSD is a total mine-field for anyone affected be they sufferer or supporter, unfortunatelly paranoia is very prevalent in sufferers. I know I was deeply Paranoid regarding my now ex wife and my sisters boyfriend.

I can never be sure wether or not they did have an affair or not and TBH it really makes no difference to me at all now. If you need a chat or just want to vent and let off some steam, please feel free to message me anytime.

This forum is a wonderful place to come when we need some support.

Take care

Mr Laurie

 

[digger]

Can you give a bit more background on how you feel PTSD is affecting this situation?

Is it him that has PTSD and you feel it is in some way affecting his behaviours leading to the break up, or is it you that has PTSD and the break up is affecting your symptoms?

 

[Aida-Kanan]

Can you give a bit more background on how you feel PTSD is affecting this situation?

Is it him that has...

I gauss he is paranoid...
He barley trusts anyone and wouldn't like to share his problems with others...he is too jealous.

My boyfriend, his brother and I recently had a class at school together and i was seating beside him holding his hand and his brother who is the same age as me was making jokes and i laughed cause I felt now we all are like a family.

My boyfriend didn't say anything and at night he said I don't want you to text my brother any more...i don't know what you had before but forget him from now on
And I said ok there's no one more important than you and I told him that he is in the center of my life and I also said I don't really know what do you mean we never had anything.
Then he said I'm not stupid I felt how you look at him and laugh at his jokes I read your texts ... I know how you feel about him...whatever you do just love 1 not 2
Well I also was close to his brother but I never had a crush on him or anything like that but later when I talked to his friends they said his brother is not a nice guy so he is jealous or maybe has felt like he can't get your attention but he just trusts once

 

[digger]

I gauss he is paranoid...
He barley trusts anyone and wouldn't like to share his problems with others...he is too jealous.

Sorry, that doesn't really answer my question. Are you questioning whether these might indicate that he has PTSD?

Sorry for the repeated question, I'm just trying to clarify what sort of help you are wanting from members of this forum.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

Of

I gauss he is paranoid...
He barley trusts anyone and wouldn't like to share his problems with others...

Ofcours we had been in a bad situation where our families don't want us to be t

Sorry, that doesn't really answer my question. Are you questioning whether these might indicate that he h...

Yes I want to know if he's paranoid and how should I respond to this situation.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Yes, does he have PTSD? Sounds like he is abusive, reading your texts, punching a guy. Sounds dangerous. You can't respond to paranoia, that is his problem. If he is abusive walk away

 

[digger]

I want to know if he's paranoid

Okay...last try because I think we're just crossing wires here...

Putting the paranoia and jealousy to one side for a second - Does he have PTSD? (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

 

[Aida-Kanan]

Yes, does he have PTSD? Sounds like he is abusive, reading your texts, punching a guy. Sounds dange...

Yes he's got a special personality...he is so sensitive to his loved ones and a total monster to others.
Once a guy beat his father at the bus in front of his sister but his father doesn't react and when he heard of this he found the guy and beat him to death he was in coma for several days...

 

[Aida-Kanan]

No

Okay...last try because I think we're just crossing wires here...

Putting the paranoia and jealousy to o...

 

[Queen Boudica]

Seriously he beat someone to death, why didn't he call the Police? You still haven't answered if he has been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD. Special personality is hogwash. Get away from him. He is displaying dangerous behaviour.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

I

Seriously he beat someone to death. Get away from him. He is displaying dangerous behaviour. That's...

love him so much and I'm sure he won't hurt me physically