My Fiance Denies My PTSD

[Perdido]

I'm so sorry that your relationship is causing you grief. It's tough enough having PTSD, much less having to justify the pain you suffer.

I've had many relationships in the two decades since PTSD fogged up my world. And there have been some women who have really sympathized with my pain -- and others have scoffed at it as contrived.

I hope you're doing well and get the support you need. If he expects "excellence" from you, it's ironic he doesn't give the same to you.

Todavia perdido

 

[a3a2]

Run like hell, Shiraz! Please!

I have been amazed at your posts. You are able to put words to feeling I have had for so long, but could not express. You are empethetic and talented and deserve so much better than this manipulative jackass. Get into a relationship with someone who sees you as you are and recognizes the gift they have received.

 

[midi]

There is a reason your anger is welling up - your body is angry at how this guy treats you. Listen to your body. Put your body and your mind first and buy the guy what he really wants - a wooden puppet on iron strings.

 

[shiraz]

My Man

Perdido, a3a2, midi. .... I began this thread a year ago and quite a bit has happened since then.

The man has since been to therapy with me .... had a major attitude adjustment (his words) and is completely exceeding my expectations in terms of all he does in order to support me.

There has been a real 180* turn around and he has proved to me countless times that the PTSD cannot beat him and he will not allow it to beat me.

I cannot ask for a greater support or more proactivity. Simply put, My Man is amazing, I never gave up on him in the past and he is not giving up on me now ... yes he took a little while to come to the party - but a good man is worth waiting for don't you think?

We as PTSDers hope that people would never give up on us and we need to show that same openhearted to the people we love in turn.

PTSD is a beast to live with and my man is learning all the ins and outs of this beast so that he can best serve me.

Now I think that is worth applause! :clap::clap::clap: Greater riches, you cannot find ... this man has suffered by my side and has recently been heard saying ......'NO MORE! NO MORE STRESS FOR MY GIRL!

He 100% accepts and supports my recovery through PTSD ... may you also be so fortunate as to find the comfort and support of a wonderful partner who loves unconditionally and finds the strength each morning to tell you that he loves you and that you are not alone and if you should feel that you are unable to cope with your day, then he would gladly avail himself to rescue from you, all duties and that you should not worry your pretty self but should rest your weary arms as he might be in the way of demanding the embrace of his lover on his return.

Now that people ... IS A MAN! THAT IS MY MAN! .... and I am not sharing!

:Hug_emoticon:

 

[Nicolette]

Awesome Shiraz.... you deserve the happiness :Hug_emoticon:

 

[BethRSA]

So glad for you Shiraz,

Does your man have a similarly well-taught older brother for me?:rofl:

Take care! Beth

 

[zoe]

I am so happy that you have someone that loving and supportive in your life!

 

[Marinajohnson99]

Wow reading your post makes me want to cry...cry for the pain he is causing you and for the fact that what you feel is EXACTLY how I feel about my relationship. Except it is reversed. My husband has PTSD and I'm the carer. My husband does the same things and says the same things as your bf. He only takes his anger out on me thank goodness and not my son, but if it isn't controlled soon I'm afraid he might. He does the same dinner episode, pushes his expectations on me but says he doesn't, and verbally abuses me then apologizes later.

The only words I can give you is you are not alone. There are plenty of people on here and in the world that feel the way you do and will support you. I'm trying to find my feet as well. I just have a lot of rage and resentment. We deserve the very best things in life, but only we can determine what is best for us. I hope you find what makes you happy and what is best for you. I will keep you in my thoughts.

 

[Perdido]

Shiraz,
I'm so glad to learn that things have turned around for you. Best wishes, good luck and happy days to you both.

P

 

[Freddy_hiding_less]

This is a beautiful development. I wish you more and I wish more people on this forum to have reason to update their threads like this.

 

[a3a2]

Glad to hear it Shiraz! As one who has escaped abuse, I couldn't bear to think you had escaped the abuse only to enter it again.

I appreciate all of your insightful posts and wish you continued healing.

 

[Jagged Angel]

Have only just read this thread, and I feel very uplifted by what has happened here. Your man obviously loves you very much! You deserve the best, and it looks like he has finally risen to the occasion! Yay for you!