My Gf Is Pushing Me Away

[Osmaston RD]

Two years ago I met my girlfriend (18 years old) over the internet and rapidly things become serious and we are in relationship up to now. We never met as she lives in far away country and we are from the same country where I live now. She suffers form PTSD caused by an abuse from a reltive in her childhood and she feels unsafe and she always thinks that there is someone is going to come to her to do bad things to her and this makes her does not trust anybody. She introduced me to some of her relatives and friends and I meet them often and explained to me her suffers.

She is absolutely gorgeous by all means and she is deeply in love with me as I do although I never saw her. We talk over phone a lot and I am in good contact with her, she knows me very well and she saw me on photos and videos that I share with her but I did not see her and she does not share with her personal life with me. At the very beginning she send me photos telling me that those photos belongs to her and she lay about her age and some other personal details, but I discovered that the photos does not belong to her and when I argued her about this issue, she confessed that she did what she did because she does not want me to know her more than she want and she does not feel safe with men in general and I am the only one that she can feel ok with and I was told the same thing from her sisters, friends and relatives as they were so happy that she was able to move on and socialize with me and I am the only one who is not triggering her and she dose not go on trauma as she used to be before I come into her life.

After few months, I was able to convince her to go to a therapist and she did and with time she liked the therapy and she still visits her therapist. The issue is that she is still keeping a distant and does not want me to know more about her and keep lying about her personal life, also she is trying hard all the time to keep me isolated and distanced and she admits it by saying that I have to stay away from men, as she wants to stay in safe place.

I am so confused as she makes me feel that she will never meet me or let me come closer. Please I need any inputs/advices form anyone has experienced such a situation. I will be more glad if I hear from someone suffers form PTSD and knows what is going on and advices me what to do and what I should not do. I really want to help her I am ready to do whatever it takes to make her ok and enjoys a normal life, I deeply want her to be ok.

Thanks for your reading.

 

[Lucycat]

Hi @Osmaston RD
Thank you for the message on my profile. Clearly you are desperate for feedback.
Firstly I am confused by your profile. You say you are from the USA but your profile is elsewhere as indicated by the flag. Libyan Arab jamahiriyaha. Not a place I am familiar with at all, but I suspect that it is not a part of the U.S.

You write of the girlfriend you have never met in terms of mutual love. I cannot comment. How can you possibly know you love each other without meeting?

I am sorry that I cannot offer more support for you, but I am suspicious by nature, and more so when I feel vulnerable- like now! I wish you well, but unless and until you can tell us more I don't think you will gain much from this site.
Kind regards
Lucy