My Mom Is Sick - Just Before My Wedding

[Unhinged]

I don't really know what section of the forums this should be in. I just need to write and get it out so hopefully I can sleep. My apologies for any rules I'm breaking here.

I phoned my parents this weekend to discuss wedding plans. They have been planning to fly out from Colorado so my step-dad (dad) can give me away. My dad answered and said that Mom had gone to her check up and they 'found something' in her blood work and other tests. Apparently it is all pointing towards Cervical Cancer. My mom is, understandably, freaking out. I don't care about the wedding, we can elope, i just need to know my mom is going to be ok. dad keeps saying he's sorry they'll miss the wedding, i just can't seem to get them to understand that doesn't matter.

The nurse said Mom would have to go in for a biopsy and that this grant (Women's Welfare) would pay for it if they did it before October 1st, then the nurse schedualed it for October 7th! My parents don't have insurance, they are totally broke. We even set it up so my fiance and I wouldn't accept gifts for the wedding, asking the family to just get together and bring my parents out.

I'm sorry for ranting and venting. I'm just scared for my mom. I was really looking forward to seeing her. I hate that i moved so far away, i can't be there for her.

 

[Nicolette]

Sorry to hear the news Unhinged. Wishing your mother all the best.

I hope you don't mind that I moved your post above to its own thread so it would not get lost amongst wedding plans.

 

[Deleted member 5760]

I'm really sorry too unhinged. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Really hope it all works out in a positive light.

Thinking of you.

-Jen

 

[Iam]

I am so sorry to hear about your mom Unhinged. Hopefully the bioposy will come back negative. On the grant side.....is she on a waiting list soif someone cancles maybe she can get in this month?

 

[anthony]

Sorry to hear...

 

[Unhinged]

Thank you everyone for the thoughts.

Nicolette, thanks for moving it. I was really upset and couldn't really focus or think of where to stick the post.

Iam, I don't really know the details of this grant. I was only able to talk to my dad and he didn't understand the information they gave him. I'm hoping to be able to talk with my mom (when she feels like it) and hopefully find a way for her to get in sooner. I think waiting that long for any answers is just going to drive them crazy. I Know when i was sick (thyriod) it was torture having to wait for an opening for surgery. Felt like I should have been doing more.

Thank you again everyone. Having a place like this to vent life's little treasure's is a good thing.

 

[ISupportHer]

So very hard on many levels. The potential diagnosis, the distance, the lack of information. All at a time when you should be joyful.

Hope I am not assuming too much in trying to offer a suggestion but when I got a prostate cancer diagnosis, I found that there were some very comprehensive books out there that gave information about what it was, what specific tests meant and then treatment options. From the best case scenerios to frank information about advanced cancer. Maybe not an easy read for you but ther MUST be something like that for cervical cancer. The book I chose was from the American Cancer Society.

I totally get that some people don't want to or can't go into details. I had a phase like that when I first got the news but knowledge is power. I hope that the knowledge of what the options are, may help you as you speak with your parents as they face difficult decisions.

ISH

 

[amethist]

So sorry to hear this Unhinged.

Prayers from so many will be said for your mum, you and your family.

Amethist

 

[Unhinged]

I got a chance to talk to my mom a little more. She said the nurse is real worried about her and pulled strings for an earlier appointment, and the early one is the one in October. I didn't talk to her much since she was pretty drunk and kept saying I was making her cry about missing the wedding (even tho the most I said about it was that I understood and wanted her to get better). I just can't deal with her when she's drinking. Makes it hard to be there for her. Oh well, she is going thru a lot and that's how she copes. I understand that I can't make her quit and face the facts.