That's worth exploring. I know I have a tendency to spend a lot of time thinking about something and then, when I try to TELL somebody about it, my brains seems to assume that the fact that I've thought about it means that I've conveyed the information. I only became aware of that after I started therapy. My therapist does it too now and then so it's been a process learning about cutting people slack for things like that. And learning to ask for clarification. Turns out there have been plenty of times when I thought someone hadn't heard what I said when I actually hadn't SAID it. Another way that can play out is some of us grew up believing that "I wish you'd do that" was an order and others grew up hearing that as someone expressing a wish with no obligation to do ANYTHING on the part of the hearer.but maybe my communication skills suck more than I thought.
Have you considered asking him?Maybe he thinks I expect him to help me somehow, which puts pressure on him.
Glad to hear things have taken a good turn with your family!