My New Therapist Makes Me Feel Stupid

[Friday]

So why is he still my therapist? Because I feel intimidated by him and I am kinda scared to drop him.

Then find someone else whilst still seeing him.

You're not dating him, or you wouldn't be paying him. You are a free agent. And able to act as one.

 

[M T]

He doesn't purposely make me feel stupid and I think it's my own crap that makes me feel that way.

The way he parrots things back to me with a different perspective, and then when I can see things in that way too, makes me feel like a complete idiot. I consider myself a fairly intelligent person but my god sometimes my thinking and logic makes me look and sound batshit crazy .

I have told him how it makes me feel and he just kinda laughs about it or will make some type of joke to make me feel better. But this is seriously a huge isstherapy with him although I know I def need it. Changing T's won't make

The things sound and seem so logical in my mind. But in reality they're not. And I don't know how to get past this feeling stupid issue. It may seem trivial to anyone reading but like my face is red right now from embarrassment just from typing this out

I don’t think you should force yourself to keep going to this therapist. I don’t think his response to you bringing it up was handled well. If you voice your feelings and a joke or redirect is made, that is not the appropriate and kind way to respond. IMO he should have apologized and asked more questions about what you were thinking and feeling. I feel this too from my therapist and I’m going to stop for a couple weeks to think about getting another therapist. IMO therapists don’t ask enough questions to really understand your pov. They just spout off their book answers like they know everything.

 

[Abstract]

Well done for stepping back!

Can you start looking for someone else? Did you previously look for someone specialising in trauma? It seems wise see someone what is used to your type of trauma, if possible.

Have you let your insurance company know?

It's also worth thinking of what type of therapy would suit you at present. It isn't one size fits all.

Importantly, have you officially informed him you are terminating therapy with him? Preferably via email. You can refer to the date and message where you first told him you did not want to continue. After that you can block him.