Sexual Assault My Secret Story

[cherryblossom]

How long is it until getting some of this stuff out starts to actually feel better, instead of worse?:thinking:

It can take a while to be honest. Especially, if you are still burdened by 'secrets'. You have started the ball rolling so to speak. The best thing you can do for yourself now is to keep going!!

 

[Hlost]

(((((((((((((((((Wonder)))))))))))))))))

All the prayers and support you need being sent your way!

Hlost

 

[Blutarg]

That was mighty brave! Well done! And your identity is still safe so rest assured.
It will take time. Be patient with yourself and go easy on yourself :hug:

As you say, there are so many like you, so maybe you should speak out and give a voice to the crime - but only when you feel that you can.

I am proud of you! I think you need another one of these: :hug:!!

 

[ptsdkate]

I want you to know that your post has been a great help! Thank You!

I'm so glad! I was afraid I was being too bossy! Link Removed

How long is it until getting some of this stuff out starts to actually feel better, instead of worse?Link Removed

It takes a while, but it's worth it. Keep pushing forward - you'll be glad you did.Link Removed

 

[Lucycat]

I have read many times that in order to progress in therapy you must have NO secrets from your therapist:eek:. I thought about this a long while and screwed it up so much I cannot determine any more what is a secret.

Something I have never told anyone? Well I have never told that I like to eat marmalade on Weetabix. Does that meke it a secret?:thinking:

Would it help to share with my T? I think I could take up a lot of his time with this nonsense!!!

 

[cherryblossom]

Yuk!! Marmalade on Weetabix :eek: :lmao: (I think the idea is to share any 'secrets' that bother you - not avoid stuff by 'confessing what you eat for breakfast - unless you have vodka on your cornflakes - that might be worth a mention :lol:)

 

[Hlost]

(I think the idea is to share any 'secrets' that bother you - not avoid stuff by 'confessing what you eat for breakfast - unless you have vodka on your cornflakes - that might be worth a mention :lol:)

Yeah that might be important :vomit: however, for some it's considered the breakfast of champions!! Who knows!?

The only reasons you might mention is why you are keeping it a secret? Are you using it for a colon cleanser of some type or are you over- eating it? Then that might be an issue, you might bring up the 'whys' you feel the need not to mention it. I don' t really discuss my menu with my tdoc and she doesn't ask, no big thing. But there might be something behind it.

Just a thought.

Sending you calm and insight with love and understanding

Rain

 

[WonderingWhy]

Deep Breath!
I'm going to start with the 1st couple of incidents which I also have held deep in secret shame. These were minor but were at a much more innocent stage of my life.

Once again I did not tell anyone. For a combination of reasons.
#1 I truly felt my father might kill the offender.
#2 The shame and embarassment I felt.
#3Fear my mother would not believe me.
#4Partially for being unable to know exactly the deails.

Another Deep breath! Actually I am feeling a bit dizzy. I will try to continue in a bit.

 

[Blutarg]

It's okay. You can do this thing.
(And this looks very organised!) ;)

 

[WonderingWhy]

Ok here goes. My stepfather touched me inappropriately above the waste. I froze, terrified! He asked if it "tickled" I replied "no". He then said "It will when you get older"
That was 1st and last time. I stayed far away and from that moment on was repulsed by sight or mention of him. I hate him to this day.

 

[WonderingWhy]

On a roll here before I crash!:oops:

There was a boy (neighbor) he was a grade below me, but not even 6 months younger it was from like 6th-8th grades. He would get me usually outside when it was dark and use his finger. He would dare me to yell and have someone see me "like this" One particular time at least 2 others did this with him, also taking turns, also with their fingers. My older brother was present!!!!!!!! To this day I don't know how much he participated. I do know that he did absolutely NOTHING to help me.

These by the way are "minor" incidents especially compared to the incidents that occurred while I served in the military. However still something I have held secret and NEVER revealed to anyone.

 

[Blutarg]

Ok here goes. My stepfather touched me inappropriately above the waste. I froze, terrified! He asked if it "tickled" I replied "no". He then said "It will when you get older"
That was 1st and last time. I stayed far away and from that moment on was repulsed by sight or mention of him. I hate him to this day.

It probably proves what was on his mind and I'm glad you steered clear of him!