My Therapist Suggested Inpatient Treatment

[Deleted member 6617]

Hi Jadebear,

Thanks for making that clear! We do care and want you to do what is best for yourself. God I know how exhausting being overwhelmed can feel. I wish I had a magic wand to take it away. I can add my prayers to the list of others who are praying. Please stay strong and please, please, please stay sober! We are about a week apart in our seperate struggles to stay clean and sober. I'm pulling for you and sending positive thoughts your way. I want us both to beat it even in the midst of being overwhelmed by what life throws at us. Is it possible to rise above it all and conquer? It has to be worth a try and better than being crushed by it all.

Hugs for strength and courage! PH

 

[Deleted member 1860]

That's an assumption you've made... until you know my circumstances or me personally, don't judge me.

Don't post and then complain about the advice you get. How the he!! am I supposed to know you based on what little you've posted?

 

[Jade-]

Don't post and then complain about the advice you get.

I didn't complain about the advice I got, I appreciate everyone's input, including yours. I just didn't appreciate the assumption you made.

 

[LSNP]

I sometimes think.... or have been thinking this last week.... that inpatient might be my only hope. Focus on ME and only ME for once in my life. Try to FIX THIS without having to be distracted with work, meals, kids, homework, house, laundry, yard.... and having booze available to numb the pain and prolong the work of healing.

 

[LSNP]

Well, as I perceive it, when you are an inpatient you don't get to go home and ignore everything. You are there to do the work. The real work. If it were me? I would go home and focus on house work or kid work or something... ANYTHING.... to keep me from focusing on me and the core that is in so much bloody pain.

 

[Blondie]

Today during session, my T. suggested I do inpatient treatment for awhile. Not because he's worried about my safety, but basically so I can get my head together. I told him I didn't want to.

I'm not even sure what they do when you're an inpatient. I'm assuming they give you alot of drugs and that's about it, right? Alot of drugs and a huge bill to pay? Exactly what kind of "treatment" do they do anyway?

Outpatient is fine with me, I already did that. I just don't understand the benefits of being "admitted" vs. outpatient.

My T. tried to make it sound like a little get away, a little vacation or something....Ha. I think he thought I would fall for it.

As long as I'm not suicidal, I'm assuming I can't be forced, right? I just really don't want to be off work and really can't afford to be either.

I was hospitalized for three weeks several years ago. The difference is that you recieve more intensive therapy. I was seen each day by the psychiatrist, had several group therapy sessions daily, and had one on one therapy as well. It was very intensive, and quite helpful as it saved my life. I wouldn't call it a holiday...it was rather intense. I suppose it depends what type of facility you go to.

 

[Nicolette]

You know Jadebear, to be totally and brutally honest with you, from what I have seen of late, I think you should give inpatient treatment a chance. It could well be ending up a short time sacrifice with longer term benefits. Money is no good to you if you end up non functional anyway and some of your actions of late have mentioned suicide. Also, if you are not coping well it could well cost you your job in other ways as well.

I think an environment outside of what you are used to without all the coping mechanisms you mention being at your disposal like drinking for an example could be a life saver for you. I get my post will probably make you angry but I write with your best intentions at heart. ((hugs)).

 

[anni]

I don't know enough about in patient treatment to be at all helpful. I did just wish to say that if there's a way to end this cycle of pain you're in now, maybe it's worth just another look. Constant, constant pain makes the whole world so unweildy-so unmanageable, with coping skills piled on top of coping skills til there's just the whole day consisting of that? I'm only saying this because it seems to me ( so just an opinion, please do know) that pain is pain. I allowed this shredded thing in my neck to go too long- finally had to cave and allow them to plan on taking out a couple of dics and fusing the dam neck. Over the last months, every, single day has been built around the stupid pain, is all- how to function with it, avoid it, squish it and tolerate it. Been pretty unspeakable-is as I write, actually. So, surgery. I'm going to give up and let them fix it, do whatever it is which is my part and then hopefully have a different sort of world after a bit.

Whatever you decide, of course, is terribly personal. It would be nice for you not to have all this pain all the time, that's all. If the in-patient thing is the way, perhaps it's worth at least a look. Boy, did it take me AWHILE to get to that point, though.No, it's not the same thing of COURSE, but in others kind of is. Like I said, pain is pain, and we do not deserve it.

Take care, ok?

 

[amethist]

This may be going against the grain of what most sufferers feel about in-patient treatment.

I really wish there was some kind of in-patient treatment available for my husband. Somewhere that he could go for at least a week, or maybe even 2 weeks.

It would give him the kick he needs, but unless he is suicidal, which he is not, far from it, it is not available at all. He is just unstable in his mood, more lack of motivation and needs to be dragged of his butt. Can't see the problem of listening to the radio all day and doing nothing.

He did ask for it over a year ago, but they said it was not what he needed. They said he needed peace and quiet, and it would make him worse not better to be an inpatient.

So please if you are offered it and it is what you need to get back on track, seriously think about it.

Amethist

 

[Elphaba]

Hi Jade, I hope you are considering this option. I have never been a patient at such a facility myself, but I have visited people have has been... and at the moment, if it was offered to me, I would take it. (I would want to find out how to do it, logistically with work etc).

I also hope you are feeling better soon - regardless of the inpatient/outpatient matter.

E

 

[Monarch]

I have been inpatient twice now and really it is there to give you a break, you don't have to deal with anything, you go to group, you eat, you sleep and you are safe, plain and simple. I got out and went right back to work...huge, huge, huge mistake! I ended up getting completely overwhelmed again, yelled at my boss and got fired. After that I went into the partial program at a hospital, which they had given me the option of doing after inpatient and I turned down. Yep, probably would have saved my job if I just did it then. The partial programs are good, I was there everyday from 9-3 attending groups, classes and being able to learn coping skills. It helped me tremendously to have that much therapy, intense therapy and not be working but able to go home at night. Some people there were on FMLA and were still getting paid by their company, the hospital takes care of all the paperwork for you, you just have to connect them with your HR dept. at work. The partial program lasted 3 weeks and after that I was refered to DBT which are skills classes on outpatient basis. I totally resisted but my T made it mandatory and I eventually complied. It has been great for me as well. I am the most stable I have ever been and have so much more insight about myself than ever before.

So, I say, go, go do what you have to do, work will be there and you will be better at it when you get back. It can all seem scary but it is not and everyone treated me with dignity and respect.

 

[jesse]

Hi there I have been an inpatient three times. The last two times saved my life because I was having a psychotic depression and was suicidal. The part that helped was the total lack of stimulation, no TV, computer, nothing for the first three days but your bed in a room. Not even a painting on the wall. Then I was moved to another unit where there was group therapy. I was heavily drugged pretty much the entire time. I did meet some very hilariously funny people. So my takehome message is I would only go if you are suicidal otherwise maybe go to your T everyday if you can. I didn't find group T very helpful either the main thing was I was safe from myself. I have never been to a trauma center as described previously in the post. This was just a regular hospital.