Hi Jason. Until last week, I was working with vets as well. I also worked for QTC doing C&P exams and the stories and horrors was very heart breaking to listen to.
Your wife is NOT a good spouse here. I would get a good friend and at least separate at this point. You need to get your head safe and sound in order and you cannot afford such cruelty.
Before I had a total meltdown, I had plans to design a recovery program for vets with mental health and addiction. I am a Suboxone prescriber as well and take care of addicts with all the comorbidity there. It is absolutely heart breaking how our good veterans have been treated by our elected leaders and both parties have been abysmal. What has happened with the VA is a criminal act and the fact that people have not gone to prison for it makes me very angry as people are thrown in jail for all kind of nonsense.
Have you heard about the legacy vets? They have chapters in many states. Not sure where you are, but this is a true brotherhood of like minded. It was my dream to get more involved as I am a veteran myself too and all the things I have seen and heard makes me lose ALL hope there are any good elected politicians left.
Please be with us and let us help you. I need tons of help myself and I am sure we all can make a difference. Your wife sounds very cruel and, most likely have no idea what is going on in your head.
Ignorance and cruelty is NOT a combination you want a spouse to have.
God bless you and stay strong. I am trying to as well.