My Wife Uses My Ptsd Triggers Against Me – Did I Mention That She Is A Shrink?

[jmni]

If you are in an abusive hostile environment you have to somehow find the courage to leave. At least consider a trial separation. This situation will exacerbate your health. Although it will affect you and your kids, keep in mind that by leaving you could improve things for them by reducing the anxiety in the home and removing at least part of the antisocial behavior that is being demonstrated to them by their parents. Although she sounds like a massive b- you will probably get partial custody.

Also everyone hates being alone in some way. Its just hard to be alone by yourself and with your thoughts. Of course ptsd, insecurity,and not liking yourself make it worse. But its way better than being in an abusive environment. Just leave.

 

[BeatenMan]

Save the marriage at what cost? Totally mental destruction? I get that you took a vow, I get that you want your family intact but you cant martyr yourself in the process. She is abusive, she isn't going to change on her own. Put you foot down as hard as it is and demand different or get the hell out and give yourself some stability and at least create a stable life for your kids half the time. Its not easy as men to admit that we are being abused but its more common that it is acknowledged. I am rooting for you Baystate, its not an easy road but necessary to force a change one way or another. Good luck buddy.