Hi there,Hi y'all, I have been working through different therapies to help cope with PTSD. I especially wish to hear from those who have a partner who is affected. I want to learn more about sustainable, healthy habits to help me and my partner navigate this journey.
I have PTSD. The flashbacks I experience can be very frightening, and I want to work to alleviate the effect they could have on my relationship with my incredible boyfriend. His caring support means the world to me.Do you have PTSD, support someone who does, or are an educator/journalist/medical professional/student/etc. looking for solid first person experience?
Hi Flying Dove, I am so sorry your living condition is unstable. I am proud of you for standing up for your boundaries even when he wasn’t able to behave himself.I am struggling. I have ptsd and so does my husband. He insisted people read the news current events discuss it. I was dumb enough to do it. He is a veteran and doomsday prepper. I am retired nurse- was rn. I got consumed retraumatized angry fearful. I am back in therapy. He is a very good man. Our belief system is opposite. His is end of the world. Not me. I almost died from bacterial meningitis of my brain in 2014. I limit my intake of the news now. I have been working on this about 2 weeks now. I no longer see in the news what he does. The fight flight fear response and all the release of epinephr8ne dopamine has drastically declined in regard to this. We did have an issue yesterday. I did tell him after my last therapist appt 3 days ago we neded to discuss separat8ng. He got ballistic. Now we seem more on even keel but said this evening it is sad we cannot talk about the world events. Besides my therapy I do my own emdr listen to Tim Fletcher exercise - walking and Tai chi. Deep breathing trauma meditations. I have 2 dogs who are documented ESAs.
The 2 best things I can share areI have PTSD. The flashbacks I experience can be very frightening, and I want to work to alleviate the effect they could have on my relationship with my incredible boyfriend. His caring support means the world to me.
Any advice or experience you could share would be greatly appreciated.
I have tried many but I really like now Jason Stephenson you tube. Insight timer is good but now requires a fee to access the better meditations and talks.Hi Flying Dove, I am so sorry your living condition is unstable. I am proud of you for standing up for your boundaries even when he wasn’t able to behave himself.
I also do EMDR therapy. Could you please share more about the meditations that have helped you?
The 2 best things I can share are
2. (For me AND -huge, huge, AND- the people around me) Learning to divorce my emotions from both my symptoms, and my actions. <<< Which means?
- On a relationship level, it means NOT acting on what I’m feeling. No matter how infuriated/terrified/suspicious/numb/etc.? I take a step back, and treat people how I want to be treated… instead of lashing out at THEM. It’s not. their. fault. that I’m feeling (or not feeling) this way. And, as what I’m feeling is a symptom, instead of a reality? It will pass.
I’d had PTSD for yonks before I learned how to do THAT one, and it was becoming a mom that did it. No matter how sick, passed off, grumpy, terrified I happened to be? It’s the smile & happy to see YOU, calm/cool/collected, port in a storm, actions I chose to take. Before becoming a mom, whilst I could mind my bearing at work? At least to a certain degree? In my personal life I was exceptionally honest/reactionary: happy = smile, sad = frown. If I was feeling it? I directed whatever I was feeling at the person/people I was with. PTSD? Means those feelings are seeeeeeriously not related to reality, a whole helluva lotta the time. Responding to the present as if it’s the past. Not having learned from the past, but as if it’s the actual past, right here & now. Realities overlapping. Once I STOPPED doing that??? Learned to take a step back? OMFG. MASSIVE improvements on the relationship front. It’s still just as honest, it “just” being true to the present, instead of treating person A like they’re person B.
Unfortunately?My fear exacerbates with triggers. Could you please share more about how you separated those painful reactions to re-experiencing trauma from how that pain manifests in your body?