Need a bit of advice - Would you stop therapy until everything cools down?

[DogTired]

In case folk don't know, the UK is in turmoil now a new government has taken over.
Free speech can result in prison and Christianity is under attack from "another religion".

We have to drive to our nearest town for a lot of our shopping and got caught up in two protests which we wanted no part of. Except they aren't easy to evade. What with the police being stupid, protesters, and above all the noise. ARGH! I also had to re-educate two "other race" (of military age) who were raving at my wife. That's not good and any anger management I was building has gone kaput big time. Now the sickening bit. Because I reacted, the clinic aren't happy, as "I forgot to breath".

I'm asking for advice. Would you stop therapy until everything cools down? Because right now, thinking about breathing is way less important than looking after my wife.

 

[abovedown]

In case folk don't know, the UK is in turmoil now a new government has taken over.
Free speech can result in prison and Christianity is under attack from "another religion".

We have to drive to our nearest town for a lot of our shopping and got caught up in two protests which we wanted no part of. Except they aren't easy to evade. What with the police being stupid, protesters, and above all the noise. ARGH! I also had to re-educate two "other race" (of military age) who were raving at my wife. That's not good and any anger management I was building has gone kaput big time. Now the sickening bit. Because I reacted, the clinic aren't happy, as "I forgot to breath".

I'm asking for advice. Would you stop therapy until everything cools down? Because right now, thinking about breathing is way less important than looking after my wife.

To be honest this would not be the time to skip therapy imho. It might be a time to change a therapist though if she/he isn't supportive when you are having a bad time a time and your symptoms are getting worse.

What I am currently trying to learn that world is always going it's own way with lot of angry people shouting at each other. The media industry often doesn't help much as they keep throwing oil on the flames to get more clicks for their news. Social media can be even worse with trolls and troll bots. We as individuals can only do our part a) not take part in shouting matches b) keep living our lives until the drama cools down & people move into next thing they are angry about.

 

[Movingforward10]

In case folk don't know, the UK is in turmoil now a new government has taken over.
Free speech can result in prison and Christianity is under attack from "another religion".

These aren't truths. They are your opinions. We live in the same UK and these are not my truths.

Would you stop therapy until everything cools down?

If therapy is only workable if society is in a place you feel comfortablr with, When will your utopia exist so that you can do therapy?
Reframing things will help you a lot. Questioning yourself and reflecting.
Focus on you and your internal world. Which is what therapy is about.
And then you will be able to navigate the world in a better way.
And your anger at society may reduce.

 

[No More]

Also in the UK - I am more moderate in my opinions of it. I think there are a lot of issues, but I think generally speaking you can mostly live and practice what you please here. We have an exceptionally weak government which isn’t helping calm tensions. I would suggest staying away from social media for the time being as it tends to be the extreme views of both sides which naturally are inflammatory.

I think it’s very admirable that you want to protect your wife. This is an area I feel strongly about as I do feel that society in the UK is worsening in terms of safety for women and girls. I think we need a massive societal shift which is going to involve lots of different systems and it’s just not going to happen without a very strong government making widescale changes.

I wouldn’t stop going to therapy over this, I’d use it to try and process your feelings and your anger about it all. Maybe there is a way forward for you to be able to voice beliefs about changes that need to be made? I think there are valid concerns to be had and perhaps it would be helpful to work through all these feelings with someone?

 

[arfie]

Would you stop therapy until everything cools down? Because right now, thinking about breathing is way less important than looking after my wife.

when i can't remember to breathe, i am not capable of thinking straight enough to take care of myself, much less other people.

when hatred and turmoil are all i can see, i double up on my therapy time. time with my therapy peers is as much "therapy time" as time with my paid professionals. the pros have the inside data. my peers have my back in the proverbial trenches.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I don’t live in the UK but I see the same thing everywhere in the world. It feels like everything is going crazy. People are considered evil and less than human if they simply see things differently. People live in echo chambers but the echos don’t fade, they magnify. I was in Budapest a few months ago and I picked up an interesting book in the English section of a good book store, it was called The Weaponization of Everything, it was published in the UK. It was a good read and made a lot more sense of what is happening in the world these days. Personally I find I am reading the news less, it just agitates me and I am always skeptical as to the veracity of all of it. I am trying to reduce stress in my life so I am trying to focus on more personal things. For me, If I felt any discomfort with a therapist I would go to another and express my concerns. If the new therapist got it and I felt comfortable I would switch in a heart beat.

 

[somerandomguy]

I'm really excited by the fact that Christianity no longer has a monopoly on religious thought in the UK! Wish it would happen here in the USA too!

As everyone else has said, don't stop going to therapy.

 

[abovedown]

@DogTirare if you are worried about the state of Christianity in UK, what positive could you do in your congregation if you have one? Are you attending services or would you willing to be a volunteer for example Bible reading or aiding in a food bank?

 

[abovedown]

I don’t live in the UK but I see the same thing everywhere in the world. It feels like everything is going crazy. People are considered evil and less than human if they simply see things differently. People live in echo chambers but the echos don’t fade, they magnify. I was in Budapest a few months ago and I picked up an interesting book in the English section of a good book store, it was called The Weaponization of Everything, it was published in the UK. It was a good read and made a lot more sense of what is happening in the world these days. Personally I find I am reading the news less, it just agitates me and I am always skeptical as to the veracity of all of it. I am trying to reduce stress in my life so I am trying to focus on more personal things. For me, If I felt any discomfort with a therapist I would go to another and express my concerns. If the new therapist got it and I felt comfortable I would switch in a heart beat.

Blocking most news sites and social media has helped me to get out my social anxiety loop/virtual bubble.

 

[Friday]

Actual turmoil? I wouldn’t need therapy. As my head clears, instantly, in true emergencies. It’s normal life and all its bullshit that f*cks me up. Which is a guide I’ve used in the US, more times than I can count. If I’m f*cked in my head/heart? Things are “normal” and i’m “just” responding as if they aren’t. If everything is clear, simple, easy? Things are seeeeriously kicking off. Even if it’s “just” normal crime, natural disaster, life threatening assault/injury/accident/rape, etc.

I’m EASY in real danger.

I’m f*cked up during nonsense & bulkshit.

 

[Sideways]

Because right now, thinking about breathing is way less important than looking after my wife.

Can’t look after anyone while dysregulated (and not breathing). Just sayin’.

 

[DogTired]

These aren't truths. They are your opinions. We live in the same UK and these are not my truths.

If therapy is only workable if society is in a place you feel comfortablr with, When will your utopia exist so that you can do therapy?
Reframing things will help you a lot. Questioning yourself and reflecting.
Focus on you and your internal world. Which is what therapy is about.
And then you will be able to navigate the world in a better way.
And your anger at society may reduce.

So the two protests we hit didn't happen? Me and a few more putting our women in a circle of husbands and others didn't happen.
The police doing nothing didn't happen? You have a nice day friend.