Needing a Friend

[JennyB]

I have been isolated for a few years due to having kids. I went through my PTSD journey in my early 20's. Now, my husband is starting his journey. I feel guilty, sad, and alone. I do not want to be this person. I want to live life, be happy, be hopeful of the future. How have you managed?

 

[Rose White]

Very slowly. And getting in touch with my desires and my intuition.

 

[LittleLostBluegirl]

I have been isolated for a few years due to having kids. I went through my PTSD journey in my early 20's. Now, my husband is starting his journey. I feel guilty, sad, and alone. I do not want to be this person. I want to live life, be happy, be hopeful of the future. How have you managed?

Jenny, I can’t imagine even begin to imagine what your’re going through I am so, sorry. I’ll be more then happy to be your friend I care, will listen, support you. i may not be able to advise you but I am here 100% and to support you your friend o.k? I am littlegirlbluelost.

 

[JennyB]

Jenny, I can’t imagine even begin to imagine what your’re going through I am so, sorry. I’ll be more then happy to be your friend I care, will listen, support you. i may not be able to advise you but I am here 100% and to support you your friend o.k? I am littlegirlbluelost.

Thank you so much! This is a long and difficult journey. Building a support network is the only way I feel I'm going to have any chance of success.

 

[LittleLostBluegirl]

Thank you so much! This is a long and difficult journey. Building a support network is the only way I feel I'm going to have any chance of success.

You’re more than welcome. Will make sure you find happiness and be successful in whatever you want to do o.k.? We need to stick tother and help each other. I am here, if need or wish to talk to you Jenny.

 

[mszl]

I think I'm on similar jouney as you do. I've isolated myself for good portion of my life. Even though I have family I'm not 100% here. Joining this forum was actually my first step to talk to other people. I hope You will find good people to call friends.

 

[Friday]

How have you managed?

In a whooooole helluva lotta different ways, depending on what life I’m living, or what chapter of life I’m in.

During my “New Mom” years? I started Uni, so I had the freedom of scheduling (OMFG, only 10 hours a week I was “supposed” to be somewhere, but only 2 days every 3 months I “had” to be somewhere; midterms & finals… everything else was negotiatible)… and kept my brain from feeling like oatmeal (full sentences. complete thoughts. actual/real tasks to accomplish. relationships on both superficial & deep complex levels. I was going fawning insane before starting school).

During other chapters of my life? Shrug. Different solutions. Most presented organically, and were built upon (like me & a stay at home dad friend brainstorming “what’s for dinner” and that turning into a potluck, which morphed into a weekly potluck / sleepover for the kids amongst a dozen different families); or a screaming deal snowboard class one winter turning into “what we do” from Nov-May, along with the others also doing that; or volunteering for disaster response, or, or, or…. IE finding “my people” by doing the things “I loved” & were relevant “in my life”.

Quotes, because it takes a helluva lotta energy -in the beginning- to create new patterns / be open to new patterns. And the mental presence to encourage / be open to those changes. As often? The things one might think will be perfect? Aren’t. And others? Surprisingly, are. Opportunities beget opportunities, like sleep begets sleep.

 

[Aprilshowers]

You said you were isolated due to having kids. Depending on how old your kids are, my children were my doorway to my new friends and finding my support network back then. I got married directly out of college, moved away from university friends and also moved several states away from family and old friends. It was lonely at first, but it was also my new beginning. New job, new friends. Once we had children and my life became a whirlwind of their activities, volunteering at school, serving on parent committees, teaching kids classes at church, and constantly interacting with other moms, my social life, as well as my support network, expanded. I am grateful for both the busyness and the people in my life then, because I was certainly struggling with deep trauma and emotional issues. Online support is incredibly helpful, but support "with skin on" is even better!