Death New relationships

[Meltigress20]

My husband died this past year. He committed suicide and I found him. I have been struggling to let him go, even though our relationship was pretty much over at the time it happened.
But now, An old friend came back into my life just a few weeks ago and it feels so good to have a friend and comfort and somebody who cares about me in my life. My body naturally is drawn to him to want to be closer, but my heart feels extremely guilty for even thinking such a thing. Has anybody had success with relationships after spouse dying or am I always going to feel uneasy?

 

[dulcia]

I can't speak to having a spouse die, but my father died when I was in my 20's. My mom remarried a few years afterward and is still with the guy. I imagine that feeling guilt might be normal. My mom speaks of finding comfort in her marriage vows -- "to death do us part". She made a promise to my dad that she would be his partner for life, we just don't know how long that life may be. Try not to be too hard on yourself.