I just created a profile on here.
I am feeling very lost. I got out of a very abusive relationship in 2008 that I know I will need to address at some point, but I am the type to focus on other people problems because they are easier to deal with than my own.
I met an amazing man 3 years ago and we just got married two months ago. He is a father and very sweet and gentle and understanding. He is a survivor of years of sexual abuse from his childhood. He has pushed it out of his mind for a long time and not delt with the pain and feelings from this abuse. A short time before our wedding he started getting very anxious. He has not spoken to hardly anyone about it and is very closed and distant when the subject comes up. He recently has been having bad dreams, insomnia, panic attacks. He started seeing a counselor recently and has joined a survivors support group. He speaks with his therapist, an old teacher who is like a mother figure to him, and a girl from the support group on a daily basis. He really doesnt want to speak with me at great lenth which i understand, but am hurt by nonetheless. I am not trying to be selfish or needy and i know none of this has anything to do with me. I am just feeling very helpless. He knows he is safe with me and has opened up some, but I dont know how to best support him when i myself havent dealt with my past in a healthy way.
I am feeling very lost. I got out of a very abusive relationship in 2008 that I know I will need to address at some point, but I am the type to focus on other people problems because they are easier to deal with than my own.
I met an amazing man 3 years ago and we just got married two months ago. He is a father and very sweet and gentle and understanding. He is a survivor of years of sexual abuse from his childhood. He has pushed it out of his mind for a long time and not delt with the pain and feelings from this abuse. A short time before our wedding he started getting very anxious. He has not spoken to hardly anyone about it and is very closed and distant when the subject comes up. He recently has been having bad dreams, insomnia, panic attacks. He started seeing a counselor recently and has joined a survivors support group. He speaks with his therapist, an old teacher who is like a mother figure to him, and a girl from the support group on a daily basis. He really doesnt want to speak with me at great lenth which i understand, but am hurt by nonetheless. I am not trying to be selfish or needy and i know none of this has anything to do with me. I am just feeling very helpless. He knows he is safe with me and has opened up some, but I dont know how to best support him when i myself havent dealt with my past in a healthy way.
