New T

[James McGregor]

Hi all

Well yesterday i met with who will become my new T. Currently i have been seeing a private therapist while i was waiting for NHS therapy to come through. Finally it did after a 6 month wait, the new one is a psychiatrist and she seems nice and think ill get on good with her. She will see me every 2 weeks for about a year. That means ill have to stop seeing the private therapist. The problem is the private T was the first ive managed to bring up childhood abuse to - she made it very easy to bring up. So ill have to bring this up to my new T - if i dont then i know i wont get anywhere. I still feel quite conflicted about it all, what happened as a child i was always hesitant to call abuse, as it was at the hands of a 10 year old by while i was i think about 7 or 8. But the private T said she would class it as abuse. It may take me a while to accept that i think, i just dont know why i cant accept it as that, even though its constantly been on my mind for the last 20 years at least, ive just never been able to talk about it. It has affected me in a lot of ways i think, mostly my attitude to sex -- i just dont like it, im not comfortable doing it, its always felt dirty and wrong, i just dont know if this is typical?

 

[Freedomfighter]

So your insurance will not allow you to see the first therapist at all? That is where a lot of work and therapy was done. Is there perhaps a way of the first therapist to share the work that was done before you transfer to your second therapist? I know medical doctors share the information of their patients when different specialists treat them. It would be of a great disservice to you to loose all of that work and have to explain everything anew to a different therapist.

I don't know how Britain handles these things, but do know that in Germany one has to be rich to afford private healthcare, regular citizens could never dream of getting such services, without paying hefty fees out of their own pockets.

 

[kilted]

If you swap to the NHS therapist, the length and type of therapy will be determined by the NHS. If you stay with your private therapist, these things are more in your control.

OK so the NHS is free, but if you can afford the private therapy, and are comfortable with the therapist, I'd stay with them.

 

[James McGregor]

So your insurance will not allow you to see the first therapist at all? That is where a lot of w...

Unfortunatly no, the nhs and private fields are quite different, i was paying private while i was waiting for nhs to come through, i wish i could afford to keep paying but im afraid i cant any more, ive spent all i had on private

 

[Justmehere]

If talking about trauma was super duper easy and comfortable, then one would probably not need therapy.

I think your fcan't are are common and quite expected for the situation. I'd encourage you to ask the therapists to talk to each other so that way the new therapist is able to build on the work you have done already.

It also does get easier with each time that someone has to tell about trauma.