Distraught
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Hi, it's good to find this forum though I don't know if it work out for me or not. My situation's probably somewhat different from others, in that a). I'm a husband (my wife has PTSD) and b). she's not in the military (not a vet). Maybe there are others similar to me, but I guess I sort of have the notion that these forums are more oriented toward vets and their spouses...
Anyway, my wife has severe PTSD she was gang raped by police officers in her native country (in Latin America) and kept this repressed for the first 9 years of our marriage. It was difficult for us before I knew what had happened, and very difficult since. (She aborted our child.) She is now living in another state and though she is seeing a therapist (she tells me), we have barely seen or spoken to each other she seems to be avoiding me, and avoiding the realities of life as well. I'm worried for her, for us. I just discovered that she has maxed out her credit cards and isn't even paying her minimum, and now I'm afraid her creditors could come after our house and other assets.
I'm so torn, because I love her dearly and yet she is so unstable and unreliable (cannot keep a single promise, even to return my phone calls) that we virtually have no relationship/marriage to speak of (we have been married almost 12 years). I have been trying to educate myself more about PTSD, which helps somewhat, but the reality of her instability and its affect on my own emotional (and financial) needs is becoming overwhelming.
Any thoughts or advice?... Thank you for listening... :(
Anyway, my wife has severe PTSD she was gang raped by police officers in her native country (in Latin America) and kept this repressed for the first 9 years of our marriage. It was difficult for us before I knew what had happened, and very difficult since. (She aborted our child.) She is now living in another state and though she is seeing a therapist (she tells me), we have barely seen or spoken to each other she seems to be avoiding me, and avoiding the realities of life as well. I'm worried for her, for us. I just discovered that she has maxed out her credit cards and isn't even paying her minimum, and now I'm afraid her creditors could come after our house and other assets.
I'm so torn, because I love her dearly and yet she is so unstable and unreliable (cannot keep a single promise, even to return my phone calls) that we virtually have no relationship/marriage to speak of (we have been married almost 12 years). I have been trying to educate myself more about PTSD, which helps somewhat, but the reality of her instability and its affect on my own emotional (and financial) needs is becoming overwhelming.
Any thoughts or advice?... Thank you for listening... :(