Supporter New to ptsd, boyfriend doesn’t feel love, please help.

[Justmehere]

I feel like he struggles to feel for me because his past experience because there’s nothing else in the way. He has become so negative and him already having anxiety does not help. He’s so affected by his past experience, he doesn’t FEEL anything about anything.

Is this something you go through when having PTSD?

Avoidance is a major symptom of PTSD, and emotional numbing is one example of it. However, that doesn't mean this is for sure due to PTSD or any other mental health condition or not. There could be many other factors going on that you don't know about.

Also, treating PTSD does not always mean the feelings for a partner will come back. The type of person I dated changed in a pretty big way after getting some treatment under my belt.

Need help from a kind soul who can relate. How do I make this better? I wanna understand and help him :(

You've done a lot to help him, through a lot of difficulties. You can be there for him, but you can't change him, or fix him, or make his symptoms better. That's for the therapist and him to figure out. I'd focus on developing really good self care. If you are up for it, you could give him a little time to figure things out in therapy a little more. Perhaps even you and him could talk to a therapist together. But, I wouldn't stay in this for the long haul based on the hope he will change. That may or may not happen.

 

[Lössnus]

I still fail to understand if he has GAD or PTSD..?
Those things are not the same..

Seing it as you're swedish..
Was it vuxenpsykiatrin that labled it PTSD?
If you want to help him, you have to understand the root of his PTSD, like everyone else before me has said.

 

[BoyfriendqwithPTSD]

He has both. He had GAD from a young age, and now developed PTSD according to therapist.. I’m not Swedish, I was in Sweden when I registered this account so I am guessing that is why it’s registered me as Swedish.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

So if he has been diagnosed by a professional which he has, that’s not enough? Or does he...

Please stand strong and don’t let negative people try to influence their idiotic opinions on you and your plight. You’ll have your solid answers soon enough.