New Years Resolution-good Or Bad Idea?

[SuperAnxietyGirl]

So, I was honestly looking more forward to new years than Christmas. The idea of starting over where I currently am sounded amazing. Then came the New Year resolution which I never do. Maybe its time to forgive and forget. Forget everything bad and move on. And with that, put my walls back up and quit being so open. But then came the wonders of if that's a good idea or not.

To forget is nearly impossible, but I have a better chance than most. But should I? Shouldn't I be using my experiences to help others? I went through them for a reason, maybe I shouldn't start pretending to have not been through them.

As for putting my walls back up, since I moved here and became less shy and more open, I have felt so much freer and have made actual friends. Should I be locking myself back up again or continue like I've been doing?

Thoughts, suggestions, comments?

 

[digger]

Forget everything bad and move on.

If you have the secret to doing this can you let the rest of us in on it ;) I reckon some of us would pay you good money for that!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Why would you go back to the way things were if you are doing so well right now? It seems counterproductive to me. If you choose that path, sooner or later you'll learn that you can't just forget everything and move on. People try, but the truth is that this phenomenon is simply called denial.

 

[Hashi]

put my walls back up and quit being so open

Should I be locking myself back up again

How did it work out for you when you did it before?

 

[JarHed]

Don't forget. I'm a vet with combat PTSD. I locked it away for a couple of lifetimes. Now I'm starting to remember things again, therapy. You can't move forward or go where you want to be without a grasp of your past and where you've been. Just don't let those things hold you back or stop you. Not easy, it's tough work but it's for yourself and well worth the sweat. As always, best of luck.

Jar

 

[Marf]

I tried that, it does not work. I do not recommend that.

 

[Ghostybear73]

I have also tried that and although it may work, you will eventually have to come back to this place where learning to deal with your trauma takes priority. It is almost a start over kind of thing and it could be worse. I have to agree with Marf, I wouldn't recommend it either. Now that Pandora's box is open, you can close it but you can not get everything back into the box. Lingering problems will invade the mind!!

 

[Bluerose]

I quite like the idea but as more of a guideline than a resolution - a plan for the coming year.

Hopes and wishes….. What would life be like without hopes and wishes.

 

[North4450]

Sounds like you made a good start. Keep it up. Keep reading, keep talking, go to the gym, eat healthy and be good to yourself. You deserve it. Go to youtube and watch Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay and Depak Chopra. I have come through the fire and I am stronger for it. Best to you

 

[SuperAnxietyGirl]

Alright. I suppose not. Sort of what I wanted to hear. My mom agreed that she could understand where I was coming from but that it wasn't right. She is right, its pandoras box. Sure I erased a bunch of years of my young life, but what if it came back? I have diaries during those years and I'll read an entry and remember it then but nothing comes flooding back. But that doesn't mean it won't eventually.

Thank you all for your replies!

 

[Hashi]

From what you say, I'm liking your Mom for what she said.