Relationship No, You're Crazy! No You're Crazy!

[Sighs]

@Sweetpea76 - thought I'd start a new thread so as not to derail the other one.

I never use my vet's PTSD as an insult. He has said he's a nutter and that he has the card to prove it (referring to his DVA card). But he's happy to call me any number of nasty names. It sure gets tiring. I hope that you are doing ok. Its hard to be blamed for everything and told all the issues are yours when you KNOW that is not the case. Not saying all the issues are his either. Just that everyone has their baggage.

Hugs if you accept them!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Love it! This is a great thread.

I think I recall one of the sufferers saying something about being a normalizing tactic. Making us out to be "crazy" or "unstable" means they're not the "crazy" one.

I also wonder if it's a man thing... i.e. "Women are crazy."

 

[Tinyflame]

No it's not restricted to gender (JMHO).

 

[Sweetpea76]

True... I've heard lots of women talking about dating "psychos" and whatnot. Isn't amazing how everybody's ex is crazy?

 

[Livy's Mom]

My recent favorite in context of not seeing his daughter?

"There is just no telling what YOU will do?! YOU have extreme highs and lows.. YOUR bipolar!"

Really? I have extreme highs and lows?? By extreme highs and lows are you referring to my calm demeanor and the lack of insults being thrown? If so yes your right I MUST be bipolar.

I also love...

"I'm not coming around because I just can't deal with the arguments and THE LOOKS."

Wait, wait, wait... Did you mean you can't deal with me walking on eggshells and staring at everything but you to make sure I DON'T give you a reason to say I gave a look and you are rude and argumentative with anyway??

My ALL time favorite...

"I can't risk going there... I mean she could lock herself in the bathroom, choke herself and call the police and tell them it was me! I have to protect myself!"

That one actually made me laugh..

But your right, I am crazy. Crazy bird as you refer to it to be exact.

My oh my

 

[Purplemunchkin]

For hubby it's all about memory.

He'll swear black and blue that he's told me something, when I know he hasn't. He may well have told one of the various other people he speaks to everyday. Or he will have told me something and refuses to believe it was him that told me.

He then accuses me of trying to deliberately make him think his memory is playing up, when *obviously* it's mine that is faulty.

 

[Kintsugi]

@Purplemunchkin I have no doubt that that is crazy-making and frustrating. Just wanted to respectfully say that I've had that experience as a sufferer and sometimes have an extreme emotional reaction to my memory not being reliable. It's scary as f*ck when people tell me they DID tell me something I swear they didn't, had a conversation I don't remember, or that I apparently said something I have zero recollection of. I can't imagine how it is to be on the other side of that fright fest. :banghead:

My favorite quote from being in the role of both supporter and sufferer... "You need to get your head straight!"
My thoughts: "Does that mean it'll be your turn next, or...? No? You'll just keep flying off the handle about stupid shit? Oh. Okay."

 

[Sweetpea76]

My vet has a TBI too, so we have all kinds of memory issues. I know he has legitimate issues, but when he starts in with me about it, I have to count to 10 sometimes...

 

[Panda Bear]

Okay...funny...not so much, but I can laugh now.

I initially went to therapy to figure out why my husband was such an idiotic asshole, and needed help figuring out how make him stop being so stupid. I actually wanted my therapist to tell me how get him to do things my way! How to get him to stop pissing me off...

Sigh, supporters, you guys rock! I'm so sorry we put you through so much. Really, I am sorry

Oh, and lucky for me, my T realized I was the issue....

 

[Kintsugi]

Lmao @Panda Bear :roflmao: I hate it when we pay people to fix things and they say WE'RE the problem. Hello, everyone ELSE is the problem. But isn't it weird how the infuriating aspects of relationships seem to just keep repeating themselves? It's almost as if I were the one with... a... problem... Aw, man... :banghead: :P

 

[Panda Bear]

Lol @Simply Simon!

I do indeed pay good money to be reminded that I have the issues and will turn into my mother if I don't pull my head out of my ass!