Relationship Non-relationship life

[anon1234]

Something I’ve noticed recently is that other aspects of my life seem to be affected as I try to support. I think I’ve really gotten to a good place in terms of a relationship but I’ve focused so much on that, my anxiety about other issues has sky rocketed. Maybe I’ve lost focus on other things.

I’m in a weird place where it’s other matters in my life that are more stressful than the relationship. Admittedly, I am going through some work things.... but I just don’t want these to affect how I’ve made headway as a supporter. Now I find myself isolating a bit so I can deal with them without being a stressful influence!!

Has anyone experienced this? How have you managed this? I am going to see a specialist about anxiety and I do breathing exercises. I feel perpetually on edge.

I suppose my message to others is to not lose focus on your own life and health. I’m constantly caught up a the battle between being strong, but also being good to myself too.

 

[Snowflakes]

I can’t read your profile so I don’t know your story but, in my case, I think I got caregiver burnout. I didn’t know any better about my sufferers PTSD before I got here that I worked so hard for 10 years till I literally burned out. So as I applied what I learned here and my sufferer got better because she decided to work her therapy but I was still burned out. I mean, it felt like I had forgotten how to live as I did before. I finally let go of my notion of being strong. I remembered my hopes and dreams from a time past and very slowly tried to bring them back into my life. It’s a long process but with each week, I see progress.

You ask how one mange’s this and then you go on to say you understand being good to yourself. That, my friend, I believe is how you manage.....by being good to yourself.

Take care.

 

[anon1234]

Thank you @Snowflakes
It’s one of those days where I feel like I need support and this is such a good place to come. I appreciate your story and advise. I went from a string of narcissistic relationships to this. I believe I was burned out before I knew what I even knew what I was getting myself into.

 

[anon1234]

* burned out before I even knew what I was getting myself into.
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