flyable6string
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My wife has PTSD. I have have recently began to drive over the road, and I stay gone about 5 days at a time. I was hoping that my being gone a few days at a time would help our relationship, but it doesnt seem to help. She is nice to me when I am gone, and we talk to each other on the phone, but when I get home, she doesnt seem to want any affection from me, and she loves to argue over little simple things. I hate to argue, I just want things to run smoothly. Today was my second day at home, I have to leave again tomorrow morning. Yesterday she was nice to me, even though there were no hugs from her, if we touch, I have to make the move, and sometimes hugging her is like hugging a stump because she dont want to hug me back. Earlier today she started bitching at me about how much money I spent at the store, and then her bitching went to other little things, and she always tells me that its my fault for pissing her off, if I didnt piss her off we wouldnt argue.
What I would like to know is if people with ptsd can really reason and understand that the people who love them is not the reason for their anger, and its their own negative outlook on things. I just wish for once I could hear her say. "Im sorry." I get tired of just giving in and saying it myself, just to get her to calm down. I want so bad for her to come on to me sometime, and let me know that she loves me. I am good to her, I dont know what it takes to make her happy though, she seems to always look at the negative side of everything. She could look at a beautifull rose bush and only see the thorns. I have told her that the way she treats me hurts, and she tells me that I need to toughen up. I hate the thought of leaving her, because I know that If I were to leave then she would always be alone, because no man would put up with what I have put up with from her and stay around.
My biggest question is "Does she realize that she is being a bitch, and if so, does she even care?" I need to feel loved, I crave it from my lady. Maybe she doesnt love me anymore, maybe that is why she only sees my shortcomings.
What I would like to know is if people with ptsd can really reason and understand that the people who love them is not the reason for their anger, and its their own negative outlook on things. I just wish for once I could hear her say. "Im sorry." I get tired of just giving in and saying it myself, just to get her to calm down. I want so bad for her to come on to me sometime, and let me know that she loves me. I am good to her, I dont know what it takes to make her happy though, she seems to always look at the negative side of everything. She could look at a beautifull rose bush and only see the thorns. I have told her that the way she treats me hurts, and she tells me that I need to toughen up. I hate the thought of leaving her, because I know that If I were to leave then she would always be alone, because no man would put up with what I have put up with from her and stay around.
My biggest question is "Does she realize that she is being a bitch, and if so, does she even care?" I need to feel loved, I crave it from my lady. Maybe she doesnt love me anymore, maybe that is why she only sees my shortcomings.
