Omg!

[lilstar]

I received a text message from my birth mum the other day. I was so shocked that I didn't reply straight away.
I then replyed last night but never heard anything back so I wasn't sure what to think. Then this morning I texted her again just asking "why know" I just needed to understand.
She replyed back saying she's been wanting to get in touch for years but everyone's been telling her to wait. We sent several messages back and forth, and she wants to stay in touch if I'm happy with that and she said sometime in the future we could go for a coffee and have a chat if that's what I want.

So as you can imagine my emotions are all over the place right now, as this was so outta the blue.

 

[Lucycat]

I can't imagine what a shock that must have been.

I guess you just have to take everything very slowly at your own pace. Don't be pushed into anything. This relationship must be on your terms, if you want it at all.

Good luck, and keep us posted!

 

[lilstar]

Thanks Brucielucy!!! :thankyou: It's all just happened so quick............

 

[cherryblossom]

I can understand why you would be shocked :eek:
It will take a bit of time for this to sink in and for you to get used to the idea. I would suggest you take everything really slowly, for both your sakes. But equally, this could be the start of something amazing between you. I suppose the key might be to not have any expectations and just take things one step at a time. Good luck!! :affection:

 

[WonderingWhy]

Lilstar,

As the others have said. Absolutely go slowly. Think through everything first. I would also certainly discuss this with your T. Maybe even have your 1st "meeting" if that's what YOU decide at your T's. Just a few ideas.

 

[lilstar]

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well that's it, it's all arranged, I'm meeting my birth mum next Saturday.
Ohhhhh my :faint:

 

[cherryblossom]

:bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::dance::dance::dance::dance::affection::affection::affection::dance::dance::dance::dance::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce:

 

[WonderingWhy]

Lilstar,

My thoughts will be with you! Good luck!:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::dance:

 

[krystina]

WOW how cool is that?
I kind of wish that could happen to me but my mom i think was an alcoholic and I don't know how stable she be
plus I am only 17.
congrats!!!!!!
how did she get your number?

 

[Lucycat]

Wow. It is all moving very fast.
I hear your excitement.
Please look after yourself, take care and prepare yourself for an emotional whirlwind.
I so hope this goes how you want it to.
Where will you meet?

 

[lilstar]

Thanks all of you!!! :love:
Gosh fast isn't the right word I don't think.
We're meeting in a restaurant so i'm hoping it won't be this huge thing if ya get what I mean.
I'm looking forward to it, but so anxious at the same time.
I'm really trying hard to look after myself but with so much on my mind I'm forgetting the little things like eating, sleeping and I can't really concentrate on my coursework either.
I so hope this goes well, but if not I guess I'm just gonna have to get on with it.

 

[WonderingWhy]

Lilstar,
If I recall correctly your abuse began after you were no longer with your birth mom. Just wondering what circumstances caused the two of you to seperate? That I am sure will have a tremendous influence on how to approach this meeting, as well as give you possibly an indication of what to prepare yourself for.

I am not trying to pry, just kind of pointing out the obvious. I know for myself, things get a little blurry when I try to figure out my own life. Things do that when you are too close to them.

Know I am thinking of you and wishing the best. Be strong and take good care of yourself.:hug: