Packing Up And Starting Over

[Iki]

Ah but summer with the grand parents sounds good! A temporary leave of absence while you get your feet back on the ground.
In my humble opinion, I think you should trust yourself on this one. That is exactly what I wish my mother had done. Not leave for good, but try to get better.
It sets a good example too - of not just putting up and plodding on but striving for a better life. Like not giving up.
I think my heart got broken by seeing my mother plod on and put up with, with no reprieve. I would have been overjoyed if she sought recovery, even if it meant she had to leave for a while.
Just so long as it wasn't too long, and she came back.
I say trust yourself. It's a good idea!

 

[Anug]

I am assuming you're female.

Men don't seem to have this issue. Leaving a child with the mother is natural and fully accepted no matter what the reason. When a woman wants to do the same, even if it's in the best interest of the child, she is oftentimes judged harshly by society.

 

[Vijaz]

I am assuming you're female.

Men don't seem to have this issue. Leaving a child with the mother is natural and fully ac...

Yeah agreed. It's unfortunate, though. My dad tried to abandon me with my abusive mother that was clearly beating me on a daily basis and going to kill me and he still acts like that it was somehow ok because she was the mom.

 

[Geluzi]

I want to leave this rotten town all the time, but lack the resources. I heard moving can wind up being really triggering, though. I don't know.

 

[Hurit]

When I separated I did not have ptsd symptoms. I had a blooming career and was mom of 13 and 15 yr old girls. A very good friend who is a therapist knew what a hard time ex and girls were giving me, and suggested that I give him custody and let dad finish raising daughters, but no discussion of leaving town. I could never do that, so I hung in there. I had no real support system and I ended up becoming broken. Looking back, I wish I would have done this. I supposedly had the background for the future abuse to cause full blown ptsd. I would rather my kids have not seen this, and now that they are grown, we have no contact. The knew the well me and could not take the broken me. I understand. Now I would like to just disappear.