Parenting Tweens

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There have been a few things that have happened over the past 2 days that has sent my PTSD into over drive, thus making me hypersensitive to noise and repetition.
When mini me (MM) woke up this morning, (she is 12), I let her know that it was acting up, and I needed to not have a repetitive day.
(I have explained in the past, over time, etc. how repetitive noise and actions will bother me, she is completely aware, I haven't hidden that)
It started with her constantly kicking her legs on the couch. Her part of the couch is squeaky,
so repeated leg movement+squeak=trigger
So I reminded her, in case she didn't realize she was doing it to stop
a few more reminders, then I made her move seats
Now with lunch, she has a drink with a straw. *slurp*
after a few rounds of me asking her to stop, re-explaining what it is doing, it was enough.
She got upset that she was spoken to a bit harshly as in "mm that is enough. put the drink in the fridge"
(she broke the glass putting it in the sink btw)
I think in my head, it's typical tween behaviour, and then I think, she is purposely doing it, typical tween behaviour.
But how the heck are we made to handle this with the PTSD? (when I feel like I am doing okay on the parenting front).
Are other people encountering this? How do they handle it when their kids are (what seems like knowingly) aggravating triggers for the ptsd?

 

[Artytree]

There have been a few things that have happened over the past 2 days that has sent my PTSD into over dr...

I have a 16 year old, a 18 year old and a 2 year old. The older two know the type of things that are stressors such as repetitive noises, loud sudden noises and people who eat loudly.
My 18 year old has adhd and some autistic traits and he always has to tap his hands or feet, or shake his leg whilst sitting. My 16 year old eats with her mouth closed and still makes a ton of noise.
So from personal experience I'd say, it's just them being so wrapped up in their own world, they simply forget or don't think about it.
I'd leave the room for a bit to calm myself if they did anything that would be a stressor to me.

 

[Deleted member 541]

God bless you.... Tweens???? I found it almost insane to have just one. But I didn't know I had PTSD, and wasn't in treatment at that time wither. I just thought I was nuts. Well I am, but well you know...

Headphones maybe to drown out the noise? Also spending time in your room to avoid... Good luck!!!