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News Passing Of Robin Williams

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Thanks catjudo. I did not know that he discussed this in the past. No it doesn't really matter whether he suffered depression or bi-polar disorder. I was just seeking information and clarification because admittedly I dont read or watch much on celebrities personal life.

Also bi-polar can be much harder to treat than major depression because patients often find the side effects of medications that treat bi-polar disorder takes their personality away and they feel a flat affect, so they quit taking them. I wondered if that was the case here.

His death makes me want to do something along the lines of public awareness. I have lost loved ones to suicide and have always been active in promoting awareness. That is until I was struck by it. Now I dont feel like I can make a difference. I do speak at a local suicide awareness fund raiser/walk once a year, but am sorry to say that it makes me feel a little bit like a hypocrite because I speak from my own experience but only as a professional and it seems generic to me.

Bloomin is so right, even with money, there is not adequate relief for mental illness.

Not that this applies in this case, but I do believe another problem with our system is a legal aspect. If one is feeling suicidal and tells someone, a mental hygiene order can be done, the person picked up, and put in a lock down facility for a min. or 72 hours. Those places are often horrible, at least here where I live in the US. They are put on some meds and the hospital stay is generally short (crisis unit), and they are released when they tell the psychiatrist that they no longer have those thoughts, or they just said that. They are given a list of treatment to follow after their release, only to find out that these resources are not available at this time, their insurance does not cover the order, theres a waiting list, or any of many other loopholes. It is like a punishment when the person needs to be treated with some compassion and dignity.

Where I live, the local crisis unit has very strict dress policy for safety reasons,(no belts, shoe laces, draw strings, etc), but also no caffiene or tobacco use. The place is dirty and below standard. The beds are about 80 yrs old. They come in every 15 minutes all night long and shine a light in your face to document how patient if and how patient is sleeping and then reset alarm in room as proof they checked. This is due to staff that has neglected to do room checks and patients being sexually assaulted. They lack any real treatment. They have groups but get no individual counseling, there are no activities, no outside or exercise, and many are afraid of other patients.

We had one man that told dr he was still suicidal and homicidal and they sent him home anyway because of insurance. He went and killed his 3 daughters and wife, then to his mothers and killed her and a brother.

I clearly understand that measures need to be taken to prevent the suicide, but often the person will not share the next time, they just do it.
 
I was so shocked, I am a huge fan of Robin Williams and was not aware of his struggles inside of his own mind. I pray for his surviving family and friends who want their privacy. I am very sad about his choice. I am just plain sad.

He made me laugh so much and I have watched so much of what he accomplished in his short lifetime.

I did not know him and I realize this happens so much to regular people nowadays. But I felt a kinship to him because of his great talent.

I pray for his family to be able to cope with this great loss for them.
 
I apologize if this has been already said since I have not had time to read every word of every response.

As others have mentioned, I to was aware that he had struggled over the years. Yet I was surprised and deeply saddened at the news of his death. Perhaps because of the sense in the past that it was not a question of "if" my wife made an attempt but a matter of "when". I won't rehash the details.

Many of my responses to threads are simply my initial response to situations or post and this one is no different.

First in response to discussions about someone with so much in the way of financial and other resources could succumb to depression. To me it is proof that the disease can affect anyone, regardless of age, sex, socioeconomic status. There is a news story on right now about the increase of calls to suicide hotlines since Robin Williams' death. One positive, maybe beneficial is a better word, result is that people are talking about it. Not only those needing help but the public in general. It's just a shame that it takes a celebrity's death to get people's attention about (fill in the disease)

To those here that struggle, I want to tell you my wife's story of hope. In very general terms, things were very bad for years. I have posted before that things are so much better for her. No guarantees, of course, but that it can get better. If I had the slightest idea why, I would shout it to the world or bottle it and give it away free. If you struggle, please do whatever you need to get help. You don't have to be a celebrity to be important to each and every one of us.
 
I just want to clarify the thoughts I was posting were in no way questioning how someone with fame and fortune could be depressed...I know that it is a disease that does not discriminate. I was simply making an observation that he presumably had no financial barriers to the best treatment available and yet still depression killed him. Despite no financial barriers, there wasn't sufficient treatment to save him. And so it makes me feel even a little more hopeless about myself and others in a similar situation finding effective treatment.
 
I was just watching Dr Drew on this subject, and someone mentioned that the actors union does provide great coverage for mental health and rehab, however, they all agreed that while rehab is socially acceptable in this field, mental health issues are still treated as a weakness and so in this culture, people who seek help are very secretive about it. I now know that he talked about addictions publicly, I saw some of that on clips as well. He made jokes about his relapsing.

I think we all need to be careful about comparing the possibility of our own futures with someone who seemed to have all the resources. Having money can actually hinder our ability to heal, it can keep us busy and avoiding our issues, but it sure would be nice to have a little extra right now, I would go to a ptsd rehab treatment center for a month or two.
 
@catjudo, I totally get it. I feel the same, especially when one hears about other suicides close to home (ptsd). Usually in those cases it's Military or Fire/EMT/ Paramedic related. I just wish they had resources for everyone.

I agree that depression or suicide rather may or may not take any of us out, but the same goes for every disease. Similarly, I've known of people who fall down 2 stairs & die, whereas another jumps 6 stories without a scratch.

The one thing I think, & I have to confess it's "trying" to be positive, is that the best resources money can buy aren't necessarily the best resource for that person, their background/ trauma/ where they're at. Similarly, they are definitely not the 'only' resources or I would not be alive today.

Today, I ended up 'accidentally' talking to a 30 year therapist who can't stand my employer. A total stranger, he ended up asking me if I had 'told my secret?' to anyone? It was simultaneously weird, creep & un-nerving. :( I did the logical thing- I asked him if he had. He said some of it 'accidentally leaked out during his initial training'. He said it was better people working in my job have 'intimate understanding'.

It reminded me of 3 things though: 1) I have been able to say some of mine but it was never conventional or planned. But it's 'happened'. 2) The things they've recommended to do 'about' a suicidal person on tv here since Robin William's death would have assured I did it at the first (next) opportunity, so everyone is different, each case is unique. And 3) maybe there is 'help' in the little, gentle things we may miss if we are unaware. For example, I once had a (computer printed, not a pamphlet) prayer for 'hopeless causes' blow down the street & land at my feet. The person I ultimately 'told' I contacted accidentally after googling. I once had everything in place & someone said about may you be protected & it threw off the plans. One time a guy was in the way & wouldn't 'get lost'.

And I guess what @ISupportHer said below could be #4:

To those here that struggle, I want to tell you my wife's story of hope. In very general terms, things were very bad for years. I have posted before that things are so much better for her. No guarantees, of course, but that it can get better. If I had the slightest idea why, I would shout it to the world or bottle it and give it away free. If you struggle, please do whatever you need to get help. You don't have to be a celebrity to be important to each and every one of us.

We all will go one day, but depression or not, ptsd or not, I don't believe it's necessarily inevitable it will be suicide, even without the (so-called) 'best' resources.

I hope we can find or carve that teeny bit of peace that helps so much. So does the support & speaking about it here. Too bad I bet RW never had that. :(

I heard today it's important to promise.
 
And one thing I forgot, bumping in to that guy today I realized something Big. I 'answer' questions (feel obligated to, & honestly), & wouldn't speak or offer but could see myself (dutifully) 'answering' a T. That would be a recipe for disaster for someone like me without great trust first. It would do more damage than ever good. Even this guy, it really bothered me.

Like Robin Williams I am told 'you should go in to stand up comedy'. It's a defence, not as therapeutic as people think (and I've been told "You (I) don't have the capacity to be depressed". And that "You aren't shy". (Both are horrifically wrong). So what we as people see & think can be very different than the masks.)
 
I have just read that Robin Williams was deeply in debt. That puts another perspective on the situation. Firstly why was he is debt when he clearly had the capacity for high earning. ( of course there could be poorly judged investments/purchases etc - or the addiction). If this proves to be fact it puts him in the same or similar situation to very many more people with financial worries.
 
UK's The Telegraph has an article today about resentment and complacency. Feeling financial pressure to do movies and be away from his family when he did not want to. As I read the article, echoing in my mind was "Resentment is the number one offender." He was pressured into actions that were not in harmony with authentic self. That lead to depression, which led to using, which led to suicide. A true cautionary tale for those with "co-occurring behaviors".

"Resentment is the “number one” offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick." ~ Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 64

Blog Spiritual River disagrees (of which I was also a subscriber for a couple years):
"Why resentment ceases to be a threat
It is true that many in AA or other recovery programs will struggle with resentments. They can indeed be the poison that leads people back to drinking or drugs. But anyone who is living a progressive life of recovery will inevitably make a shift in how they handle things. Either they will learn to deal with their anger, or they will not. This is part of the learning process of recovery, and is also addressed specifically in the 12 steps. Regardless of how a recovering alcoholic goes about it, they are going to have to learn to let go of their anger if they are to remain sober in the long run. If they cannot cross this “learning gap” and learn how to overcome their resentments, then they will inevitably drink or use drugs again some day.

Why complacency becomes the dominant threat
For those of us who make it past this initial stage of recovery, and work the steps and start dealing with life “on life’s terms,” resentment ceases to be such a major threat, and we now have a new problem to worry about: complacency. This is the true number one offender, and you can see evidence of this when you hear an alcoholic describe their relapse after a long period of sobriety. It’s not a specific resentment that got them in the end–instead, the person is usually so baffled that they can’t pin down why they drank, and only know that they had “drifted away from AA meetings” or started “letting up on their program of recovery.” In other words, they got complacent.

It’s not the big things that get us in long term sobriety (like a big juicy resentment), but the little things that slowly eat away at us if we happen to stop making spiritual progress."
 
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Often the more that we have financially, the more we spend. With a history of addictions, impulsive spending would not surprise me at all-combined with a celebrity lifestyle. I would think that over spending would be a real temptation with the belief that money is pretty easy to make.
 
Or if we want to believe the news stories, which have indicated there may have been some financial difficulties but I've seen no report of him being deeply in debt (there is a difference, in my mind), having gone through TWO divorces proved expensive and cost him in the neighborhood of $30 million. I've seen reports that although he was no longer worth the $130 million he was several years ago, he was still, by all accounts, a very wealthy man...having almost $30 million just in real estate equity from two residential properties. Reportedly, and this is very believable to me, just the royalties he continues to receive from past movies and work would have been more than enough for him to live well for the remainder of his natural life.

Having taken some financial hits, it's not difficult to imagine him feeling stress and worry surrounding financial issues. Depression lies...it's not difficult to imagine depression playing a role in making him feel worse about his financial circumstances than they really were and putting pressure on himself to earn more.

Or we could sit around speculating he spent recklessly and impulsively brought on by addiction even though I've not seen a single report of that and although by all accounts he was sober for 20 years. Even though he was said to have recently entered rehab, I've not seen one report that he had actually broken his sobriety...I've seen stories that he was struggling to stay sober.

Honestly, even before his death, when I heard he had entered rehab to help him maintain his sobriety, I wondered if it was really about his addiction or if he was getting treatment for his depression. Because sadly, and the people here should know this, there is stigma surrounding mental illness and as weird as it sounds, it seems more socially acceptable to need rehab than psychiatric hospitalization. And maybe he had returned to drinking and/or drugs, but none of us really know that and it just seems mean to make assumptions or throw around theories that he was in financial distress because of addiction and reckless spending without any facts to back that up.
 
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