Pay Yourself A Compliment

[Sideways]

Self- compassion has been the hot topic in Trauma School for the last few weeks, and I suck at it. So this is me doing extra homework to try and catch up to some of the more proficient students in the class - this is me, paying myself a compliment, and practicing accepting it for what it is, and just sitting with the uncomfortable feelings that it generates. Because it's a compliment, and compliments are (allegedly) a nice thing in life.

And I may come back every so often and add one here and there, and maybe one day they'll get to be bigger and better. But I'm starting small.

If you feel like you could cope with paying yourself a compliment, feel free to add your own. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside & way motivated when people put energy behind the positive-spirit stuff.

Ragdoll, you have really nice hair.

You don't look after it too well, but it still looks nice. Some people spend a lot of time and money in salons to have hair that looks like yours, and all you have to do is run some cheap shampoo through it every so often and it still looks good.

Huh! The world has not exploded just because I paid myself a compliment- who knew!?

 

[ms spock]

Great thread @Ragdoll Circus!

These are the websites that I am working with at the moment.

Tips for practice - Self-Compassion
http://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/self-compassion.break_.mp3
A Meditation on Lovingkindness - Jack Kornfield
Radical Acceptance


The compliment that I want to give myself is "Ms Spock, despite how hard it was for you to even approach Self Compassion, you have kept approaching it and working on Self Compasssion Breaks most days - that is really dedicated. You are a very hard worker Ms Spock!"

 

[Sideways]

@Ms Spock - you're so awesome! Thanks for the links, more extra homework and tutorials for (ahem) teachers pet! I've actually thought of you and your self-compassion crusade several times in the last few weeks. This stuff is hard work, but I'm up for the challenge:)

 

[ms spock]

This stuff is hard work, but I'm up for the challenge:)

Me too!

 

[Eagle3]

Gee, didn't realize how hard this was going to be until I actually tried to type something out...

Eagle, you are a natural and capable leader. That's why you keep getting put in those positions. Others see your potential, so accept that and be proud of your natural gifts.

OMG, that's really hard to do!! And even harder to accept after typing it out...not gonna erase it, but man its tempting too! Excellent thread, Ragdoll, I didn't realize how much I needed to do this.

 

[watundah]

Watundah, regardless of the fears you face, your tenacity is greater and you always give it your best shot.

 

[Forgetful]

Snafu, you are a loving, caring grandma even though you get agitated and frustrated with them.
Knowing this too shall pass. You keep trying to feel less of those feelings daily. You're learning to get through these feelings knowing that although they're little now they're learning to be their own little person.

 

[Sandstone]

@Ragdoll Circus This is a brilliant idea for a thread. I'm looking forward to reading your next compliment to yourself.

Sandstone, you are repeatedly able to start again after a setback.

 

[Lotis]

@Ragdoll Circus What is Trauma School???

Lotis you never let them beat you down

~L

 

[DharmaGirl]

Dharmagirl, you are kind and compassionate towards others.

 

[illusionist]

To write it and actually believe it?.....

Will start with..

Illusionist you have good personal hygiene and always smell nice.

Took me a good ten minutes to come to that one....am I the only one that's cringing?

 

[Lotis]

Took me a good ten minutes to come to that one....am I the only one that's cringing?

No...I stared at the screen blankly for ten minutes. I cringed when I hit the post button haha
~L